Hey, I will try and explain this as best I can so please bare with me, I am a happily married man, and around 12 months ago I met a women we met at work and instantly connected even before we spoke, we ended up working together for a few days, instantly we had loads in common and got on like a house on fire, we became so close, texting everyday and meeting up 3-4 times a week just to do nothing but as long as we where together we both loved it! Chatting became emotionally deeper and we both admitted strong feelings for each other but both agreed as we where in relationships it was not 'our' time as it where, I even told her I was falling in love with her and still we where so close and this did not effect our friendship at all, and a few months on from then she now doesn't seem interested, she hardly texts me back and only seems interested in talking to me when she has to like when we are at work for example, always making excuses for me not to meet up with her and this feels so out of the blue, I have asked her if something is wrong because she is acting like this and she always comes up with I'm tired and we are OK or I've been so busy (when no matter how busy she was before she always made time for us) I have noticed when she meets new people she is all over them could it be that she just loves the excitement of meeting people, or could it be how she's deals with stronger feelings for me? I really don't know and I get all these ideas rattling round in my head it makes me so down, I feel like I've lost her, I would appreciate any comments thank you.

For one thing you had said your both already in relationships? If that is the case then let this one cool off or break off the one your in because like it or not your cheating on your partner. Its possible she may have at one time wanted to go further but your already tied to a existing relationship and so was she. No fertile ground for either of you. Grow up and make up your mind. Since your condoning cheating just remember when it happens to you you can't condem it.

Start by being honest in your life and maybe things will change.