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mad-dad
Apr 23, 2012, 05:17 PM
I have a 4 year old daughter who's biological father has had no communication with for nearly 3 years since I left America to live in the Uk. He has not supported my child in 3 years and suddenly he wants to claim custody. Can he do this?

cdad
Apr 23, 2012, 05:28 PM
As far as the title to your question. I don't quite understand. In the title your asking about a move. But in the body of the question your asking about custody.

So to answer the body of the question: Yes he can ask for visitation even after not contacting the child. Is there or have there been any formal custody / child support arrangements that have been made by the courts?

mad-dad
Apr 23, 2012, 05:54 PM
No there has never been any formal custody / child support arrangements that have been made by the courts. I left the US 3 years ago to get away from him, he was abusing my child. She sustained a head injury as a result of his abuse. I never reported it as I just needed to get away. I moved to the Uk where I have dual Nationality American/British. I have had no help financially in that time and he never wanted to see her . Now I have a new Boyfriend ,he has found out through a mutual friend . He has recently contacted me and is threatening me with Layers saying I have broken the law. " Parental Abduction" and is saying he will come and take her away from me. What can I do? What can he do?

ScottGem
Apr 23, 2012, 06:38 PM
How did you get the child out of the US without a father's permission? Did you inform him where you were after you moved? If not, yes, you are at risk of being prosecuted for parental abduction. I would be getting your own lawyer.

mad-dad
Apr 24, 2012, 12:27 AM
How did you get the child out of the US without a father's permission? Did you inform him where you were after you moved? If not, yes, you are at risk of being prosecuted for parental abduction. I would be getting your own lawyer.

He had No problem with me leaving the States 3 years ago, he Does know where I live.I have not heard off him in over two and a half years and suddenly a couple of months ago he turns up on Social network site I am on and is now making demands upon me.He has my e-mail addy but never contacted me before.He is telling me he is Angry with me and if I don't do what he asks he will get a Lawyer and have me Arrested for "Parental Abduction" or come and take Our child away from me.He does not work and has never supported us. I have worked hard to secure a nice home and life for my Daughter and myself in the UK. Now I feel threatened. I can't believe he can be out of touch for nearly three years then suddenly threaten my Daughters and my Happiness because he is now not happy! This week he has contacted my family and friends in the States saying he is going to take my Daughter away unless I do as he says... What can I do?

ScottGem
Apr 24, 2012, 03:21 AM
I asked some specific questions, you gave only general answers. Let me ask even more specifically. How did you leave the country. Did the father sign off on the child's passport? Did he provide a letter approving the child's leaving the country? You claim he had no problem with it, do you have proof of that?

Do you have proof that he had knowledge of where you were or means to contact you?

If you can prove that, then his claims of parental abduction will not have merit. If you can't, then you have a problem.

mad-dad
Apr 24, 2012, 04:05 AM
I asked some specific questions, you gave only general answers. Let me ask even more specifically. How did you leave the country. Did the father sign off on the child's passport? Did he provide a letter approving the child's leaving the country? You claim he had no problem with it, do you have proof of that?

Do you have proof that he had knowledge of where you were or means to contact you?

If you can prove that, then his claims of parental abduction will not have merit. If you can't, then you have a problem.

Thank you for a quick response.
Yes I have an e-mail he sent to my father asking do I still live at the same address,he sent that this week. I also have it in writing permission to leave the states to come live in the Uk with my mothers Family. He further states in a message he trusted me with our Daughter to reside in the UK. I have contacted him and asked him to stay in touch via e-mail and I will send him pictures and an update on a regular basis via e-mail. I have told him he come visit and could arrange somewhere for him to stay during his visit if he so wished. What more I could do I don't know? The threat is probably because I have a new boyfriend and he cannot deal with that. Our relationship ended 3 years ago. I have moved on,but obviously this matter is upsetting me. My Daughter is of Paramount importance and need her to have Stability in her life as well as myself.If her father had stayed in contact for the past two + years I would have a better understanding. What do you think I should do?

ScottGem
Apr 24, 2012, 04:44 AM
You do nothing. At the most send him a letter via certified mail (keeping a copy), telling him that you have always kept in touch and invited him to have contact with his daughter. So you do not understand his threats. Tell him you will continue to allow him to be a part of his daughter's life should he choose to.

Then you need do nothing more unless he goes to court. If he does, you go to court and produce your proof that you had permission to relocate and have kept in contact. By the way, if he files in a US court, you counterfile to have jurisdiction moved to the UK. And you may also file for him to pay your legal fees since his petitions have no merit.

But I think this is just bluster. And the letter will take care of it.

mad-dad
Apr 24, 2012, 08:50 AM
You do nothing. At the most send him a letter via certified mail (keeping a copy), telling him that you have always kept in touch and invited him to have contact with his daughter. So you do not understand his threats. Tell him you will continue to allow him to be a part of his daughter's life should he choose to.

Then you need do nothing more unless he goes to court. If he does, you go to court and produce your proof that you had permission to relocate and have kept in contact. By the way, if he files in a US court, you counterfile to have jurisdiction moved to the UK. And you may also file for him to pay your legal fees since his petitions have no merit.

But I think this is just bluster. And the letter will take care of it.

Thank you for that. You have no idea how much I appreciate your help!

ScottGem
Apr 24, 2012, 09:44 AM
Good luck and keep us posted.