So I met him September of 2010 and we just clicked. We spoke everyday and went out a few times until a few months later he asked me if we were going to take things seriously. I really wanted to because he was just so amazing but I told him no because I felt it was too early. So in May of 2011 he asks me again, and I said yes. I felt like I loved him so much and I felt like he did too. He was just amazing, I can't even explain it! We have gotten into small arguments here and there but it was never anything we didn't fix within hours.

In March of this year (2012) I went on vacation for 2 weeks with my family to our native country and we spoke for a little bit everyday. Ever since I came back I noticed a change in him. He wasn't as caring and loving as he used to be. He just changed and I addressed him on this but he said he had not changed and he was going to be like how he used to be. So I waited for that change and it never happened. He stopped having sex with me, and its been more than a month since we last did it. All I feel is like he's just unattracted to me. And not to brag, but I am very good looking LOL. So I just never understood where his whole sex drive went if he's only 25. I want it more than him and its supposed to be the other way around.

So he went to his cousins house to watch a soccer game at 2pm, and unlike the usual, we barely texted each other and once it was 9pm and I called him numerous amount of times and no answer. Once he did, he told me he didn't have service and didn't hear his phone because they had been celebrating. I felt so sick of having to deal with this sudden change in him because he was never like that. I never went out like that either. So I felt this rage and I told him to not call me again and I basically broke up with him. He seemed to be OK with it. And when I questioned him why he didn't care, he said that he wasn't going to let me do this to him again. Because I had broken up with him before for another reason many many months earlier. He told me that he was a grown *** man and that if he wanted to hang out with his friends, he was going to do it and I wasn't going to keep him locked down.

He said he needed his space. I asked him to talk about it and he seemed more interested in hanging out with his cousin than talking to me. He said we would talk about it the next day but I haven't called him.So OK, I understand that he may need his space, but what I don't understand is that before he would tell me that he doesn't even like going out with his friends because he wasn't into that. So because of that neither of us ever went out unless we were together throughout our relationship. And we had gotten used to that.

I don't understand why his thoughts have changed and why he is behaving like this. Why do I feel like I'm unimportant to him, even when he tells me that he loves him. I love him way too much but I can't deal with this any longer. Why do I feel like "I" don't need space from him if all I want to do is be with him. Please help me !

Maybe while you were on vacation, he spent more time with his friends and realized that he missed that. It's good for couples to have time to themselves and with friends. Then you came back and questioned him about it and he got defensive.

Breaking up with him, when all you really wanted was for him to pay more attention to you, was a mistake. If you have done so before, he might be thinking that he doesn't want to deal with such a pattern.

Let him know that you understand that he needs to have some time with his friends and that you will do the same. Perhaps he has felt a bit smothered and just never said anything. Not wanting to always be with you doesn't mean he doesn't love you.

If he had been feeling that way, it would have been nice for him to have said something, but maybe he thought it would hurt your feelings, or maybe he just didn't realize it until he had some time to himself.

Start spending time with your own friends and family. Take up a new hobby or activity that you have been wanting to try. Get a friend to join you in it. Then, maybe contact him and see if he would like to get together in a couple of weeks for dinner and a movie.

His thoughts or feelings haven't changed, he is just tired of going along with your program, pleasing you, and getting dumped for his trouble. He is angry, and letting you know it. Now what will you do about it?

Can't say as I blame him at all. If you dumped your boyfriend out of anger, instead of talking, that's what you get, anger, and retaliation. Try talking and compromise.

Maybe I'm wrong, but maybe while u were gone, he found or at least met someone else he wants to explore things with---so he's feeling guilty.
I went and seems always am going through the same things as u.
The guy didn't meet someone else, he was and is just an . And I need to accept it---but it's SO hard.
I'm just saying maybe , in your case, since u were away, he met someone else.
Ask him.

Basically it was you who got dumped here. It sounds like he was dragging things out until you finally made the move.

I would try going at least a couple weeks without contacting him. If he calls you that's fine, but do not call him. Let him see what life is like without you for awhile. In the meantime I would recommend you get out with your friends and have fun. He will notice this, and it will make him come back IF he still wants you.

Good Luck - Elliot

Yes, sounds like he did not know how to tell you it was over or was just holding on to you as a back up plan. But I agree, you broke up with him because of what he was doing, so it does not sound like he has changed, it sounds like he just decided to do what he wants.

Guess I never understand why it is guys going with their friends, not the couple going to each others friends at various times.