To try to make a long story short...

I have been seeing my girlfriend since we were 16. We are 22 now and everything has been so great. We see each other everyday and when I leave, she texts me saying "i miss you already whats wrong with me." or "why did we find each other so easily and have so much love." things have been so happy and our 6 year anniversary was coming up. We've been looking at engagement rings for awhile and I finally got her one to surprise her with before our anniversary. Then all of a sudden were sitting in her bathroom while she washes her face and turns to me to tell me she feels extremely unhappy. That she feels we've done everything together and never had alone experiences. And that she doesn't know why she feels unhappy with me. This blew me away...

The last time we had sex she started crying afterwords because she told me how happy she was with me and how she wants to be with me forever and a week later this comes up.

I don't know what it is going on? It seems as though she feels I will ask her to marry her (Which I was going to) and she's getting the jitters. Like she missed out on something. I don't hold her back. I let her go out with girls, dance with guys and let them buy her drinks. I don't hover during those things even though I am clingy at times as well.

I want to add some facts. A year after we started dating, she felt a little like this and ended up cheating on me (making out only). And then she went to college 2 years later and same thing happened but not to the extreme as before. Anther thing is she has been off her birth control & has failed to take her depression medication recently because she ran out of both. So can these influence the emotion she is feeling?

I talked to her last night and she said she loves me but she doesn't feel happy with me. I just don't get this at all. I figure its something that could have been building up but the crying and texting and ring searching does not match up. But she wants her space now. So I walked out and she said she'll text me tomorrow. Tomorrow came and no text arrived. I didn't text her because I figured she still needed the space.

I fear taking a break though because both times ended horribly and I can't forgive her if something happened again.

So what I am asking for is advice. What are your opinions on the subject? How should I go about future actions?

Its natural for young people to want to shake things up, and explore their world, just as it's a hard thing to deal with changing feelings, and expectations. You aren't kids any more, and if a loved one isn't happy, ask them what would make them happy, and give it to them, whether you are afraid of losing them, or afraid to be without them.

And obviously you can't stop her from cheating. I would let her do what makes her happy, and adjust to life without her.

So ask her what makes her happy, and to bow out gracefully, if need be. A break is a break up, and sucks no matter what you call it. So ask her, and hope for the best and plan for the worst.

Good luck facing your FEAR! That's what its going to take.

So since 16 she has changed, her views on the world has changed and so are you, It is rare for these relationships to work and long distance makes a person see others differently also.

** I will say if a break is agreed to, it is not cheating, since they are free to do what they want.

But it sounds like she has a pattern of doubts which could be from medication or just that she wants to break, has wanted to for a while but when she tries she is having trouble letting go

So Things got bad. I found out the truth. She started having feelings for a good friend of mine but didn't want to hurt me. We broke up for real and then she tried getting back with me telling me she loved me and being apart, she realized it. Things were getting better. However, My best friend told me that she had been sleeping with him several times during the break. They both lied to me about it and then when I told her I found out the truth she went crazy to get me back.

But honestly, I can't be with her now. And it took me awhile to figure this out. She is a beautiful girl but has a problem with attention. I love complementing her and everything but it wasn't enough. She needed other men to tell her she's pretty and to want her. And I see that now. I asked her why him and she said because he said she was pretty. That's all it took I guess to get her attention.

Now everyone of our friends has my back and are so supportive. I realize now that she doesn't deserve me. In the week that we took our break she changed and became more "hardcore" (Gauged her hears, listens to heavy music, and drinks Jameson like my friend who she crushed on did).

Its funny how her and my friend both tried getting back with me and his girlfriend even though they were sleeping with each other. Now they lost all their friends because of the messed up choices they made. Even her parents talk to me telling me that she didn't deserve me. I feel bad that she has nobody now but honestly, the whole situation was messed up. And I know his girlfriend well so I have someone I can relate too. I can see that now I can't be with someone who needs so much approval from others. That's what all the other "bad things" were in the past and I just pieced it together.

In a positive note, Ive been keeping busy with my friends. This summer Im traveling the country like Jack Kerouac in order to find myself. I have so much support and love that its helped me a lot. 6 years with her, everydays a battle. But life is better off now.

Thank you guys and girls for all the support and advice. I can't thank you enough. Im just glad I know I have to move on now and Im ready to. I have so much more of my life to live.

Thank you.