My girlfriend is a virgin, and I want to have sex with her but I don't know how to start. Should I ask her for it or what ?

It should just happen naturally, if you are at a point you still have to ask you are not ready

What you do is go to her parents and ask their permission to have sex with their daughter.

How old are you?

It depends. Are you ready to be a father? Is she ready to be a mother? Are you committed enough that you're considering marriage? Are you financially secure? Do you even have a well paying job, or are you so young that you still live with mom and dad?

She's a virgin. I'm assuming that there's a reason for that. It's probably because she doesn't want to be a mom right now. She's not ready for a child. Either that, or she's religious, or was taught to wait until marriage, or at least love, before having sex.

You have to think about more than your sexual urges. Can you afford a child? Not just once it's here, but all the care it needs while she's pregnant, the birth itself (which can cost $12,000 or more in the US, if the delivery is normal), and all the supplies, doctors visits, etc, after the baby is born? If you don't even have the $12,000 for the delivery, then you're not ready to be a parent, which means you shouldn't be having sex. There's no form of birth control on the market that's 100% effective. Just fyi.

So how old are you? Are you ready to be an adult, be responsible for another living being? If not, then you're not ready for sex, and neither is she. Maybe she's just smart enough to know that, and that's why she's still a virgin.

No you shouldn't ask for sex I believe if she's ready then it'll play into part.

What you do is go to her parents and ask their permission to have sex with their daughter.


Excellent advice - love it. Yes, that's the answer.

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Well if BOTH of you feel ready and you are protected then yes>

Better be safe than sorry

Well if BOTH of you feel ready and you are protected then yes>


No birth control is 100% - what do you recommend?

Well if BOTH of you feel ready and you are protected then yes>

Better be safe than sorry

But we don't know if both feel ready. We also don't know their situation like how long they have been dating, how old they are etc.

And how old are you that you think you can give advice of this sort?

I'm guessing Junior High - here's a question she posted: "Me and my BFF, we have been through lots! She and my crush became guy and girl best friends and I got jealous, then we had a fight because of a communication break down (I thought she was ignoring me yet she never got the text) then she became friends we my enemy! She knew I liked this boy but she carried on, she knew that I sent here a text but she never told me she could not see and she knew that girl was my enemy! I have tried talking to hear but she just says she is tired of this lectures. Please no mean answers."

No birth control is 100% - what do you recommend? Im just saying if both of them are ready I mean like condoms and stuff

Im just saying if both of them are ready I mean like condoms and stuff


What exactly is "and stuff"? "Alty" makes some excellent posts. Unless and until you are able to support a child, knowing no "protection" is 100%, this could be a life changing, foolish move.

Scott asked you a good question - what qualifies you to give this advice?

Im just saying if both of them are ready I mean like condoms and stuff

We pride ourselves on the quality and accuracy of the advise we give here. This is a serious Q&A site, not a playground for bored teens. Everyone is welcome to give advice as long as they maintain the level of quality that is a standard here. So far you are far from meeting that standard.

Im just saying if both of them are ready I mean like condoms and stuff

And what "stuff" is 100% effective in preventing pregnancy? There's only one thing that's 100% in pregnancy prevention, and that's not having sex. Everything else is not 100%, and you should know that there are women on this site, and all over the world, that got pregnant using not one, not two, but three forms of birth control, all accurately.

So, when the poster comes back and says "Lilninjadiva, we used a condom and stuff, but my girlfriend is pregnant, we're both teens and we can't afford a baby. What now", what advice will you give then?

You have to understand that there's a lot more to being ready for sex then just being horny. There are consequences. Very adult consequences, and I have yet to meet a child that's ready for those consequences.

Ive taken one virgin card and it was awesome. We had sex about 400 times with no protection and no babies just use the withdrawal method if you think your comfortable with knowing your timing. I suggest masturbating on the regular so you don't have to worry about precum so much plus you learn your body and ejaculation time

Ive taken one virgin card and it was awesome. We had sex about 400 times with no protection and no babies just use the withdrawal method if u think ur comfortable with knowing ur timing. I suggest masturbating on the regular so u don't have to worry about precum so much plus u learn ur body and ejaculation time

And if you believe this I have a bridge in Brooklyn to sell you.

This is a serious Q&A site, not a playground for juveniles.

Ive taken one virgin card and it was awesome. We had sex about 400 times with no protection and no babies just use the withdrawal method if u think ur comfortable with knowing ur timing. I suggest masturbating on the regular so u don't have to worry about precum so much plus u learn ur body and ejaculation time


Sometimes it's better to remain quiet and be thought a fool than open your mouth and prove it.

Ive taken one virgin card and it was awesome. We had sex about 400 times with no protection and no babies just use the withdrawal method if u think ur comfortable with knowing ur timing. I suggest masturbating on the regular so u don't have to worry about precum so much plus u learn ur body and ejaculation time

U may think your smart, but you have shown that your not.

Ouch, that was hard to write.

You can't even use the English language properly, but the OP is supposed to believe that you know what you're talking about?

You got lucky. That's it. Or you're sterile. But stating that someone else will be ask lucky as you, have sex 400 times with no protection (bull$hyte) and not get pregnant, is just plain moronic.

Why not tell the OP to put a loaded gun to his head and pull the trigger, hope for the best? That's basically what you just did.

Don't give advice when you have nothing to offer on the subject.

Well you may ask her but don't get depressed if she says no. She's probably not ready. Don't rush or push her into it. She will most likely not want to have anything to do with you...
-Superman :P