I have found out that I am 5 weeks 5 days pregnant. My ex fiancée is the father, but he doesn't want any part of it. I want to know exactly how to go about legally getting him to relinguishing his rights, so that down the road I don't have to worry about him trying to come back into our lives. I don't want child support from him and plan on doing this on my own. I want to have a life after this free of conflict in case, I should find someone that is welling to take on a single mom and child.

First you are making a lot of choices for your baby because you don't like the babies father.

First unless you marry and have someone who wants to adopt, you can't have him give away his obligation to child support, and it is not your money, it is the babies money you are being so free giving away..

If you don't want it for the baby, save it up and use it for the babies college fund.

But anyway, nothing can be done till the baby is born, he can give up his custody and visitation rights, but can not give up his child support obligations. The state also has a interest in the child support, since if the baby end up on welfare or public assistance the state has the right to go after the father for money.

You have to go to court and have him sign away his rights to his child he has to go up in front of the judge and the judge will ask him why and ask him if this is really what he wants. Its not an easy process and can be heart wrenchingbut if that is what he wants he needs to find a lawyer but he will have to pay child support till the judge signs the order and tell him he doesn't have to any more...


Good luck

You have to go to court and have him sign away his rights to his child he has to go up in front of the judge and the judge will ask him why and ask him if this is really what he wants. Its not an easy process and can be heart wrenchingbut if that is what he wants he needs to find a lawyer but he will have to pay child support till the judge signs the order and tell him he doesnt have to any more....


Good luck



This is an old post and you have given incorrect legal advice. Should be closed.

You have to go to court and have him sign away his rights to his child he has to go up in front of the judge and the judge will ask him why and ask him if this is really what he wants. Its not an easy process and can be heart wrenchingbut if that is what he wants he needs to find a lawyer but he will have to pay child support till the judge signs the order and tell him he doesnt have to any more....


Good luck



This is an old post and your "legal advice" is incorrect - should be closed.

You may want to search through some of the many threads on this same subject for reference.

Yea, I have to agree... I have never heard of a parent being able to give up their parental rights UNLESS in the case of an adoption. Just because they don't want the child, does not mean they can get rid of their rights -- from my understanding.
I have to agree with the above posts. Get him for child support, and put that money away for the child's college fund, first car, OR for a rainy day. You never know what may happen, and its always a good idea to have some savings in case you'll need it for him/her.
He doesn't have to see the child, you don't even have to see him. If its court ordered it can be direct deposited into your account, or an account specifically for the child... but its money that the child should have (and personally, in my opinion, he created the child so he NEEDS to pay for him/her)
Best of luck,