Ok, so my boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 years this year. We were always admired because of the relationship we had, and the communication and love and trust. But over the past 6 months everything changed drastically. We started fighting a lot, and trust became an issue, and every weekend we are with he's friends. HIs friends became very fond of having me around, because I'm an outgoing person, who makes people laugh etc. Then he started accusing me with hIs friends and saying that he can't trust them, instead of me, and we carried on fighting and arguing.

Eventually I started drifting away, and I got closer to my cousin's, cousin who I can also call a cousin, and he was comforting me. We stay very far away from each other, but we started falling for each other, and eventually decided to meet for coffee. But it didn't work out that way, and one thing led to another, and we used to meet for family holidays, and act all normal. But secretively we were meeting and spending weekends together.

Now the problem comes in that we were almost caught, and we've decided that we cannot go on this way, and I can't put myself to being with my boyfriend, I love them both but I can't decide. I can't be with the sort of cousin, everyone knows that we are family, because we made this clear to everyone. Another thing is that my boyfriend will look right to everyone by saying that he was right when he made those accusations, please HELP!! Crying.

Well what do you expect by solving you relationship problems by taking a secret lover? You made this complicated, and made it worse. DUMP the affair, and take care of your own home. Simple, huh?

Yes, perhaps he saw something in your behavior with his friends that worried him and you have done nothing but prove him correct.

So dump the affair, get you and partner into counseling and work out the issues.