How much sex do you all have? What do you think is normal??

There is no normal. Everybody is at different levels. Different people have certain sex drives.

If you want more personal info. My wife and I stopped as soon as we found out she was pregnant. Have not presumed yet. It is important but not the most important.

Joe

If you are the one that wants it more, how do you NOT take it personally?

Good question, That is where communication comes in. Being able to talk with each other. Being able to tell each other the way you feel a certain way, and why. Open communication is the only way to make sure that no one take it pesonally. If somebody does take it personally then it could be worked out.

Also with sex drives it seems it goes back and forth. There are times when one wants it a lot the other does not. Sometimes that gets switched around. Sometimes both are on the same page.

This is normal.

Some women require more than just the thought of having sex or even just visual stimulation. In discussions that I have had with women and my own experiences, it is necessary to stimulate all senses. Have you ever tried toys or even fetishes? Sometimes that all it takes! I work for the Art of Loving in Vancouver as a sex toy party rep and there are a lot of different ways to stimulate your lady. You know what is also really fun is to go to a seminar together. What about a kissing seminar? You can sit in a room with a bunch of others and learn how to kiss passionately (not that you don't already know how to). What this does is give you a sense of voyeurism and sexy anticipation. All you want to do is go home! Ha ha

Good luck!

Sex is kind of like air, not very improtant at all, unless you are the one not getting any.

I think that for me I will let to have sex at lease three times a week. That is nothing noraml or adnormally as long as you and your wife is happy with not carry on. It will improve your relationship with your wife. WHy not is a win win sitution.

Once a day for me is normal...

Hi! I'm a virgin and proud of it. I kind of think the idea of sex is gross. Normallity ( Is that a word? :) ) varies from person to person

I'm a virgin and proud of it. I kinda think the idea of sex is gross.
As an idea, it may be gross, but as an intimate expression of love, it is sublime. Keep the gross idea at the forefront of your mind, and you can remain a proud virgin forever.

Nothing wrong with choosing to stay a virgin till you are married. However I think there might be a bit of an issue with you considering it gross. I've seen women in my life with some very strange ideas someone put in their heads. I feel sorry for any man who ends up with them, as they are seriously sexually repressed by anyone's usual standard except a puritanical standard.

Sex is not gross, it is wonderful, and the fact you chose to wait for it is perfectly fine and normal.

My boyfriend and I have sex once every 6 or 7 months... Yeah it's not normal and it drives me nuts. I think on average a serious couple should be doing it at least 2 twice a week.

My boyfriend and I have sex once every 6 or 7 months... Yeah it's not normal and it drives me nuts. I think on average a serious couple should be doing it atleast 2 twice a week.heck unless you are senior citizens once a day is about right for me. But then I am married.;

Once every 6 months? I would go up the wall. I have sex with my partner twice a week on average, but this is the lowest it has ever been for me. When I was younger and it was all new it was like 3 times a day every day but that is just maddness. These days I would love to do it more and my bloke and I are working on finding time to make sure we do do it more often. Some times it is too easy to say, 'I'm tired' etc.

It differs from week to week, but I would say on average about 4 or 5 times a week. During the honeymoon period it was crazy amounts, but I don't suppose that ever lasts more than a year or so (I've been with my girlfriend now for almost 4 years!)

Sex is not gross.

perhaps you are young (which is fine, so OK to think that way if you must) or you have some major hang-ups from a cold or overly religious upbringing.

Sex is serious though.

No matter what people say, it does affect someone's feelings when we engage in it. So, try to be with someone you respect and is not married, cheating, or sexually confused,and it will be a stronger and safer experience.

And I would say - 2x a day is what I really like, but not always what ensues :-)
I would guess 2-3x a week for long term couples
and 5x a week for 2 year and under couples -
And ZERO for a lot of broken couples that often find themselves here on this site :-)

(huge generalizations, but hey I think people like concrete thoughts - so there you go.)

heck unless you are senior citizens once a day is about right for me. But then I am married.;
I feel like I'm married.:(

My boyfriend and I have sex once every 6 or 7 months... Yeah it's not normal and it drives me nuts. I think on average a serious couple should be doing it atleast 2 twice a week.

Uhhhh, I'd say you have a problem. Would it be possible that your BF is going elsewhere.
Are you the home-girl and someone is the away-girl?

hope not.

might be time to move on if 2x a year is where you're at.
better talk to him QUICK about this or move on...

Lol, I remember those days fondly!! Not with Qwazi obviously lol

Normal?? What's normal about sex??
Anytime
Anywhere
Any place
Any reason
Any way
Any how
Now that's normal

If you are the one that wants it more, how do you NOT take it personally?


I am assuming you're referring to a current situation then.

In which case I must ask: have you considered why the other half isn't interested?

Someone before mentioned spicing things up and I would imagine that would help.

I was a virgin until last May/June and he has been my only "lover" and it wasn't exactly an experience which has me dancing around wanting more sex.

Of course, I also got pregnant from the experiences and had 9 months of celibacy anyway. XD

My point is: had the sex been actually great, I'd probably have more of a sex drive. Guess it'll depend on when a guy actually helps make it enjoyable. =)

Lol, I remember those days fondly!!!! Not with Qwazi obviously lol

Are you sure ER? I was with a lot of women before I married!:D

Of course you wouldn't know me by the name Qwazi, back then I was known as Mr. Studly the woman pleaser:D

First of all, your name makes me uncomfortable.

Why would you stop having sex because your wife is pregnant? Did the doctor tell you it was dangerous for the baby for some odd reason? My wife and I had sex up to the day before she gave birth with all 4 of our kids. No problems.
For some odd reason. Okay now you have me boiling mad. Who the ---- are you to judge me for the username I have.

For some odd reason. Every situation is different. For you to base what is normal on your own experience is wrong.

No problems for you. Congratulations.

Good for you.

Not everybody has that luxery of no complications.

You're such an ignorant ---.


Joe

I think what you see is the amount of sex is not a thing normal for anyone. A lot of couples even in the newly wed state would say that 2 or 3 times a week is a lot or normal for them.

And it is not wrong for couples to only have sex a few times a month or less for busy couples, or ones that put their overall relatonship as the most important thing.

For others it is never, I have of course many religoius frineds who are celebrate and will never have sex. And for them that is great and normal

After a few years of marriage over all I would say a 2 or 3 times a week is a norm if there is any real norm.

Sex is not gross.

perhaps you are young (which is fine, so ok to think that way if you must) or you have some major hang-ups from a cold or overly religious upbringing.

Sex is serious though.

No matter what people say, it does affect someone's feelings when we engage in it. so, try to be with someone you respect and is not married, cheating, or sexually confused,and it will be a stronger and safer experience.

And I would say - 2x a day is what i really like, but not always what ensues :-)
i would guess 2-3x a week for long term couples
and 5x a week for 2 year and under couples -
And ZERO for a lot of broken couples that often find themselves here on this site :-)

(huge generalizations, but hey I think people like concrete thoughts - so there ya go.)I've been married for 16 1/2 years and its still 5-7 times a week. :D And my wife initiates it at least as often as I do. And its never repetitive or boring. And my wife has never been with anyone else other than me. I do take the time to find out what gets her excited and what doesn't, and try new things to keep it from getting boring. Nothing is worse than missionary year after year, after year. No wonder some couples never do it very often. Its give and take. You have to be open to stuff, BOTH of you, and then you can keep it exciting. Actually I have found its much better now than when we first married. And I am sure she agrees with me as well.

My husband and I have sex about four to five times a week.. on a good week. But factor in a child... school... and jobs it varies. If we had been up with our sick son.. like last night then we don't usually feel up to anything the next day.

My husband and I have been together for almost 13 years and normal for us is about 1 or 2x a week. Most of the time our urges are off. One night I want to and he's tired or vice versa. And then you factor in crying child right before you... and it throws the whole night off.

Our drive has gotten a lot better though since I turned 30.

And to respond to one of the post about having sex during pregnancy - We were put on "restriction" when I was 7 weeks pregnant and couldn't do anything for the rest of the 1st trimester. When we were allowed again - we found out that I was having a girl and it kind of freaked my husband out. Plus, I was huge and did not feel sexy at all! So, we didn't have sex during my pregnancy either!

I've been married for 16 1/2 years and its still 5-7 times a week. :D And my wife initiates it at least as often as I do. And its never repetitive or boring. And my wife has never been with anyone else other than me. I do take the time to find out what gets her excited and what doesn't, and try new things to keep it from getting boring. Nothing is worse than missionary year after year, after year. No wonder some couples never do it very often. Its give and take. You have to be open to stuff, BOTH of you, and then you can keep it exciting. Actually I have found its much better now than when we first married. And I am sure she agrees with me as well.

Super!

That's why I put hard (pardon the pun) numbers up.
To give people something to react to...

What age did you get married?

Super!

That's why I put hard (pardon the pun) numbers up.
To give people something to react to...

What age did you get married??I was 29 when we got married and she was 26, I had been with a number of women over the years, most were very forgettable for their performance in bed, wife had no history there till we were close to being married. I'd say the first few years were sort of blah, till she became more comfortable with her sexuality, And right now I would not trade her for anyone I had been with before we got married. Oh that's not to say some old flames did not have their special traits, a few were good at certain things. But averaged on the whole my wife is far better than any of them had been. And that's ignoring other parts of the relationship that being married brings to you. Do we have our fights... most certainly. This isn't Disney. Will I stray due to lack of effort on the wife's part, or her performance? Not on your life. I'm quite happy at home. And trust me I do have a good imagination. I am not a stick in the mud type person.

Communication is everything in a relationship, married or not.

Smoothy, do you not think that , although I'm sure your wife has her talents, that it is the connection you have with her that makes it so good these days? A magic that you had never felt before?

Quwasi - I'm sure if we had, I would remember! Lol. Although, I think I may have been a little young before you were married hun x

Smoothy, do you not think that , although I'm sure your wife has her talents, that it is the connection you have with her that makes it so good these days? A magic that you had never felt before?Yes... because that is something you will NOT have with casual dating. And sadly many people who are married do not have. You can say after several years of marriage we got on the same sheet of music. We found what we enjoy in common and both are willing to try things the other likes at times.


And that all comes down to that connection. And the fact neither of us really had any "emotional baggage" or sexual hangups that got in the way of our relationship. And like I have mentioned, that doesn't mean we have the perfect marriage were nobody ever gets upset or angry. We have our share of those like most couples. But that we never let it get in the way, and we don't ever say or think, "we'll he or she ticked me off so I just am not going to do that for them"... what fights we have and their topics never ever get brought into the bedroom.

I'm 26 And I Have Sex 1-3 Times A Week. If It Were Up To Me I Would Have It Every Day But As My Boyfriend Has Pointed Out It's Better To Wait And Build Up Sexual Tension Between Us. It Makes The Sex Even Better And It Doest Get Boring. So It's Not Always About How Much You Get It But How Good It Is!

My girl is currently living out of town. We only get to be together every couple of months for now so our situation may not be typical. When we are together it's maybe 15-20 times over 2 weeks. Making up for lost time?