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nishuv3
Apr 3, 2012, 11:00 PM
Moved to its own thread, and edited.


I asked her a few times about the recent changes in her behavior toward me, she said "its nothing".
Sometimes she says she does not feel well

One day she said she was confused whether she is doing right, or wrong, because she never wanted to get commitment.
Every time I try to shower my love on her, she says what if we won't be able to get with each other?

Fearing the unforeseen future, she is not living up the present. And because of all this I feel unrequited, and sad all day.

What do I do?

Stellaw
Apr 5, 2012, 12:44 AM
Just be patient with her. My wife until now still doesn't believe that I love her so much. I get angry sometimes and she still is doing it and asking me irritating questions every now and then. Whenever I start to get angry, she'll tone it down and change the topic. It's a work in progress. You have to communicate what you want and what you don't want in your relationship. She won't stop just by waiting for her to stop. You need to constantly remind her how much you love her and that there's nothing that she should be afraid of because you're not going anywhere.

If you want her to live in the present then reiterate that every single time as long as you still care for her and want to be with her. Maybe in the long run you'll get tired and leave her or she'll come around. Whatever the outcome is, the most important thing is that you've done your best and exerted every effort that you could muster for her to change.

JudyKayTee
Apr 5, 2012, 09:22 AM
In this situation if the woman is unsure "showering" her with love and affection might make her feel like she's being pushed into a relationship. I'd be as calm as natural as possible, reassuring in a quiet way, allowing her to sort through her feelings.

You can't make anyone love you.

talaniman
Apr 5, 2012, 09:21 PM
You are really trying to hard to get her attention. Back off.