Even though I'm only 14, I truly believe I'm in love with her. I don't know of she loves me back though. I've gotten a lot of false hope. I've helped her through things and get through a breakup and we've even joked about how cute our kids would be if we were to have some. We used to text all the time, but we haven't been talking much anymore because her boyfriend, she got almost a week after she broke up with her old one, is one of my friends and I don't entirely want to ruin their relationship that's lasted a few months now.

Also, she's EXTREMELY pretty. Like, the most beautiful person I've ever seen, so she's really intimidating. I get shy the first few minutes when I get near her (later on, I open up). I almost feel like I missed my shot when she was single that one week, but I catch her looking at me at lunch, smiling at me at times, stopping her boyfriend from throwing something at me at lunch (as a joke), and laughing at some of my jokes when not even I consider them funny. That's another thing: we always make each other laugh.

Anyway, I remember her telling me one time that it's really hard for her to say no, so that's why I had to help her breakup with her ex. Right now I'm keeping my hope alive by thinking that she only said yes to her boyfriend because she couldn't say no and because she thinks he's cute so she's using him for his looks and, you know, sexual gain (much like what guys do nowadays as "playas"). I don't know.

People've told me to just ask her if she does or not, which would at least get the stress off my shoulder to know, but I kind of want to wait until she's single. Me and her are much alike. We both have the same sense of humor, love for animals, great taste in music, and our goals are alike (her wanting to be a therapist or inspirational speaker and me wanting to be a philosopher, author, and artist). I see her and him everyday because we're in this little "group" and every time I see her and him kissing or cuddling (which they do all the damn time), I look away because it just hurts to watch.

I want to be with her so badly. I want her to be single so we could talk more easily and more often. I wish she would mature out of her "playa" thing quicker and start to learn how to say say no more often. But, I don't know. She could be in love with me, wondering if I love her back (just like how I am), and I don't even know it. What should I do?

Leaver her alone. No matter how weak she is, not able to say no, she's still in a relationship (or whatever it is at the age of 14), and she's not available.

One thing I can promise you, and I know for fact, because I've lived longer than you and I've been where you are. You don't love her. This is not the girl you'll end up with. It's not likely. At 14 you'll fall in love with a fish if it looks at you the right way. This isn't love. Trust me.

Bottom line though, she's with someone else. If she's really interested in you she'll get a backbone, break up with her current boyfriend, and date you. If not, then that shows how much she cares.

Good luck, and be realistic. At 14 you won't find the girl you'll be with forever. You'd have a better chance winning the lottery. Not saying you shouldn't date, or have fun, but be realistic. This isn't love, it's hormones.

You leave her alone and mess with other girls is what you do my very young friend because this is the perfect time to learn, and practice not being stuck on a female that has someone else, and isn't as stuck on you in the same way. You are a friend and buddy, but NOT a love interest.

All of us have gone through this, so I sympathise. But its not healthy, wise, or fun to wait for a playa, to be single, because you get played by playas my friend and that hurts worse than false hope, TRUST me I know.

You never wait on someone, you find someone as single as you are. Young love is tough, both intense beattiful, and painful.