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Marchhh
Apr 2, 2012, 10:49 AM
OK! So this started just last year. I don't know what it is... my boyfriend gets mad when I talk about "guy"
Celebrities or when I say "oh that guy is cute" or when I follow "guy" celebrities on twitter... he gets mad. He says to me... why do you keep doing this... why can't you show me that you care or think about me more? I mean it gets me soooooo effin mad cause I'm not doing anything... I'm not cheating & will NEVER cheat on him. I love him way too much... I obviously want to marry him in the future.

We also have a kid together. Its so annoying & frustrating, like I don't know what to do. We went on break just a month ago cause of this.. & now he wants to go break again. I don't even get mad him when he talk about "girl" celebrities... & I don't really care if he does. Like this guy watches porn all the time. So I don't know what to say to him really. I do want to be with him. Help! HELP HELP!

Pettisbel
Apr 3, 2012, 03:44 AM
Maybe you should stop telling him about other guys/ guy celebrities until he has calmed down.

TormentedSoul
Apr 3, 2012, 11:52 PM
You are being insensitive to his feelings. The simple solution is for you to show some respect for him and keep these comments to yourself. Obviously, he's a bit insecure, but nonetheless, these types of comments would be best reserved for discussions with your girlfriends, rather than your lover.

Stellaw
Apr 5, 2012, 12:04 AM
If you want to be with him then try doing things his way. You won't lose anything if you'd stop looking at celebrities' pictures, will you? You could always follow them on twitter whenever your boyfriend is not around. If you're with him 24/7, then find time to be alone at your friend's place to twitter as much as you'd like. But the more effective and efficient way for things to change around your relationship is by communicating it. Be firm on what you want to change.

My wife was like that. She didn't want me to speak of another girl's name even celebrities'. She was really like your boyfriend because she watches porn and I don't. There are just people like that but I respect her decisions but I told her not to be jealous all the time and that I was sick of it. But I tried to control myself from searching celebrities. She even had problems of me watching celebrities on TV shows. But she changed eventually. Everybody changes.

She still cringes if she caught me saying that Jessica Alba is cute but she's trying to accept it. She still is a very jealous woman until now but she's managing it. If I didn't talk to her then, she might go overboard with the jealousy thing. I saw to it that if she wanted to be with me, she should start cut me some slack.

talaniman
Apr 5, 2012, 08:03 PM
I would be more concerned with how far he carries his insecurities. When they leave instead of talk it out, that's not a good sign. My guess he is young, or very immature. Maybe you have TWO kids.

maira17
Apr 29, 2012, 06:39 PM
Well it doesn't matter if they are "celebrities"... its just kind of disrespectful if your checking out another male right in front of your boyfriend. Its just not right and I'm sure it makes him feel a bit insecure. I would hate it if my man ever checked out another girl even if she was famous. You just shouldn't say stuff about other men around your man, unless its making fun of someone else lol