Catherine23
Apr 1, 2012, 07:38 AM
Hi, everybody! I do need help...
The story began 2 years ago when I met American guy. We saw each other just several times; when he had his breaks (we live in different countries). Everything was fine. A few months later, the time when he came to see me again he told me that he wanted to marry me, and some few months later he came again, and proposed me. I was quite sure that I'd marry him, but I'm not anymore. We argued, because I talked to him that I wasn't sure of this marriage which we planned, he was sad and so on, so he broke off engagement.
I was disappointed, but then I started to date with French guy, who works in my country, so we've been in relationship for 4 months now. We're closer than I was with my ex, we've fun, spend time together and so on, but the problem is I don't think he'd marry me in future... I mean he wants family and so on, but the thought that he just dating me because doesn't want to be alone here can't live me... My ex still loves me, wants to marry me, to have children with me... but I'm not as close with him as with my new boyfriend. Each time I start to discuss our possible future with my new boyfriend he says it's too soon to talk about it , etc. but he wants to be with me... I'm really confused who should I choose between them. The guy who wants to build family with me or the guy who maybe in one day would propose me?
The family is very important to me, I want to have good husband and children, but would be the marriage good without strong feelings?
I know all people have different opinions and views on life, also I know it'll be me who has to choose anyway, I can't lie to one or other and date both of them. But I've been thinking of it for really long time and don't know what to do.
The story began 2 years ago when I met American guy. We saw each other just several times; when he had his breaks (we live in different countries). Everything was fine. A few months later, the time when he came to see me again he told me that he wanted to marry me, and some few months later he came again, and proposed me. I was quite sure that I'd marry him, but I'm not anymore. We argued, because I talked to him that I wasn't sure of this marriage which we planned, he was sad and so on, so he broke off engagement.
I was disappointed, but then I started to date with French guy, who works in my country, so we've been in relationship for 4 months now. We're closer than I was with my ex, we've fun, spend time together and so on, but the problem is I don't think he'd marry me in future... I mean he wants family and so on, but the thought that he just dating me because doesn't want to be alone here can't live me... My ex still loves me, wants to marry me, to have children with me... but I'm not as close with him as with my new boyfriend. Each time I start to discuss our possible future with my new boyfriend he says it's too soon to talk about it , etc. but he wants to be with me... I'm really confused who should I choose between them. The guy who wants to build family with me or the guy who maybe in one day would propose me?
The family is very important to me, I want to have good husband and children, but would be the marriage good without strong feelings?
I know all people have different opinions and views on life, also I know it'll be me who has to choose anyway, I can't lie to one or other and date both of them. But I've been thinking of it for really long time and don't know what to do.