I'm 19 years old, I lost my virginity a year ago (2011) I have had sex with more than just one guy, but I have never had my cherry popped. I don't feeling and satisfaction while having sex and the farther the guy goes in it hurts really bad. Does anyone have advice for me?

See your gynecologist.

The expression "cherry popped" means you lose your virginity. You lose your virginity when there is penile insertion. So what makes you think your cherry hasn't been popped?

Well people say when their cherry is popped it hurts really bad and you bleed but not quite like a period.

Sometimes it does, sometimes it doesn't. The fact that it didn't hurt or you didn't bleed is not an indication. If there was penile insertion your cherry was popped.

But why don't I ever get pleasure from sexual innercorse? I get more pleasure having oral sex rather than the real thing.

That's true for most women... the nerves are more in your clitoris and less in the vagina

So it's okay that I never have bled after having sex and I get more pleasure having oral sex?

Yes it's okay that you never bled. It is also not abnormal to enjoy foreplay more than intercourse. But if you are not enjoying intercourse it could be due to some different factors. It could be your partner's fault. It could be a medical issue. So a consultation with your OB/Gyn is appropriate.

But why don't I ever get pleasure from sexual innercorse? I get more pleasure having oral sex rather than the real thing. That's more of a mental thing with women, if you aren't getting into it, HE isn't doing his part to get you in the mood... its almost purely physical with guys... so all too many of them just assume it's the same for women... which is very wrong because it isn't.

Late EDIT: Missed the part about it hurting bad the further he goes in... that alone is reason to go see your gynecologist. That might be symptoms of a treatible condition. Pain is NOT a normal situation.

and the farther the guy goes in it hurts really bad.

This is why you need to see your doctor. It is probably a major reason you aren't getting pleasure out of penetration.

Find out if there is a medical reason for the pain. If so, see what needs to be done to fix it. If there isn't, then we can talk about other causes and lack of pleasure. But make certain you are healthy first.

Thank you guys! I'll talk to my gynecologist :) thank you again

Thank you guys!! I'll talk to my gynecologist :) thank you again

I hope everything turns out okay. Remember that we are here if still want advice or ideas. Plus, we love updates. :)

Are you properly lubricated when he tries to penetrate? There can be some serious pain involved without proper lubrication.