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zach.2011
Mar 29, 2012, 02:19 PM
Hey guys I need your help,
I currently have a girlfriend and we have a 12month old child as well. The thing is she treated me like crap a few weeks ago and I kind of met someone else who waas also going through a divorce and needed someone to talk to, we were good friends and 1 thing led to another, we both in love and she has 2 kids of her own and wants us to be together, I love them both and I also see a future with the new lady, I really do not know what to do... please help

Fr_Chuck
Mar 29, 2012, 02:31 PM
Leave your girl friend, and pay support to help the child. If getting mistreated makes you run out and have an affair, you deserve everything you find in a cheating women. If she cheats with you, she will cheat on you latter.

DoulaLC
Mar 29, 2012, 03:02 PM
You got angry with your girlfriend, left and cheated with someone else (who is going through a divorce no less), and are now in love with this woman and want to move in with her all in a few weeks time?

This isn't love, this is escape on both your parts.

Take a step back and think, really think. When you are angry, hurt, frustrated, whatever, is not the time to make life changing decisions. This other woman is no doubt going through her own difficult time with much of the same feelings.

What do you do? You leave this woman alone and go back to your girlfriend. You try to discuss your relationship calmly and decide where the two of you want it to go. If you really do love each other, then consider counseling to help you both have better ways of dealing with problems.

If you do break it off at some point, just be aware that it might serve you better to spend some time on your own and figure out your part in the breakdown of the relationship with your girlfriend so that history is less likely to repeat itself. If you can cheat on your girlfriend because you didn't like how she treated you, that is a problem.

Do not contact this other woman or respond to any attempts that she might make to contact you. Sort out your relationship at home one way or the other.