At age 65 I retired and took all money as a check to me - my question is is this gross distribution get reported to New York state - federal taxes were withheld but nothing else was - so does that mean that the gross distribution does not get reprted to New York State

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Yes, a copy of the Form 1099-R that reports the distribution IS sent to the NY state tax department if your address is located in NY state.