Our breakup wasn't even bad. We went out for 19 months. We broke up because things got stressful and we ended up losing the sparks. At the time he broke up with me it all seemed like it was not real. It hit me hard a week or two later because that's when we started to go grow apart. I was more than heartbroken I was depressed. I took it hard because I grew so attached to him. I couldn't stand seeing him with his new girlfriend. After 2 months he got with another girl. Then when I had found out It sort of boosted me to move on. I tried, but that summer we had worked together. By knowing of his presence at work, I still tried my hardest to ignore him. But I wasn't necessarily over him. He would talk to me, for example, a day before my birthday we spoke. We just casually spoke and then on my birthday he had wished me. So after summer, he went on with his relationship while I was single. Every once in a while he will hit me up and say hey and ask me what is up. And we'd talk. I remember in December of that same year we broke up, he told me about his distance with his girlfriend and even though I was not over him deep inside I told him everything will be okay and for him to try to work things out. And then obviously I told myself I need to move the **** on some part of me is holding on. And so I started liking other (2) people but they had betrayed me. Also, at that time I pushed away my best friend because we were getting too clingy. Afterward, I tried staying happy, but later on I broke down.

I was depressed. I hung out with these people I barely knew that well but I didn't socialize whatsoever. I just sat there. There is this one guy who was there and I saw him about 4 months prior, just met him through a friend but I didn't like him or anything. After that gathering we started talking on Facebook I liked him had a crush on him. We got into a relationship after about a week or two. The first 2 months were fine, but then I started to break out a lot because that's when things got bad. We argued a lot over the smallest things. We both tolerated 6 months of that thinking things would be okay, but I lost kept losing my tolerance. And one day I finally broke up with him. He became over-emotional, started acting like a toddler. At that point I felt bad but I didn't feel hurt. And now we're broken up but he's fighting hard to keep me. But I think he's trying too hard. I'm the type of person to just let things flow. The thing that messes everything up is that during our relationship my ex would hit me up once in a blue and we'd talk. It bothered my current boyfriend at that time.

Well now back to current events. The day before we broke up we were having a huge argument and he promised me he would keep me happy and not be controlling. While we're having this deep conversation my ex-boyfriend passes by with a bunch of people. I kept looking at his back and started crying. I think I started missing him and how we were so happy. So the next day I broke up with my boyfriend at the time and he became over emotional (that what he is normally) and I felt nothing but he was hurt. Afterward, I hit up my ex we casually started talking. He asked about my "boyfriend" and how we are, I told him we're fine, even though we had just broken up. And later he started asking something else about us and I told him. I didn't want to talk about it. Later toward the end of our conversation he indicated that he cares for me and that he'll be there for me if I ever need anyone to talk to. Ever since that day we've been talking everyday. And I don't know he shows that he cares and he also wants to hangout with me and other people. Idk, I think my feelings are coming back because I'm starting to dream about him. All I think about is my ex.

However, my former boyfriend cares a lot about me as well. He's fighting. And showing me a lot of improvement. He knows about all this and also told me that he will be here for me no matter what. Someone please help me. What should I do ?

Leave them both alone and forge ahead on your own so you can get your head away from these past emotional relationship failure and find your happiness so you can rebuild yourself on a more solid foundation.

We often get caught up in failed romances and forget to take care of ourselves or even recognize how overwhelmed we are. The doctor recommends a year of solid healing through the fun of just being single, and staying away from exes, PERIOD. Replace them both with family, friends, and activities that make you happy.

Do this and in one year you will be happy with yourself. The key is to stay away from the triggers that have haunted you for the last few years, rebounds, and stirring old feelings through contact with an ex.

Thank you so much. I have stayed single for a year after my breakup with the first guy who I've went out with for 19months b

The second guy right now is fighting for me. Trying his hardest to keep this relationship. But I can't deal with his anger and emotions anymore. I am never happy or I can never have a good time without hi complaining. And he wants to work things. I tried breaking up and moving away from but it seems as if its hard for him to let go of me and is in control of me. Idk what to do. I agreed to working things out.

You can be honest at anytime with the new guy and tell him its just not working, and tell hm you no longer want to work things out.

So your saying to go single? The thing is I don't really have friends. So if I am single I won't be able to work. My parents won't allow it yet. And all my siblings are much older than I am and they are busy with their own lives. Idk what to do please give me advice.

I think you better explain how being single and your parents allowing you to work have anything to do with each other.

To keep myself busy. -_-

How old are you and why no friends?

I prefer not to say. I do have friends. They're just busy with their own lives.

Why are you not busy with your own life? Then you won't be depending on a guy to have a life that you enjoy? What's the big deal about revealing your age on an anoymous website?