Hello. I'm new here and I'll go straight to the point. Before two days me and my girlfriend broke up. We've been together for like 7 months but they were full of hard moments and our relationship is really strong. I'll start with the beginning of my past experience with her so you can get into it.

It all started last summer. There was one girl in my class also living in my hood (we will call her R). I'm a footballer so she was inviting me to go with her to the local stadium so we can run together. The day before our first night on the stadium she asked me if she can get her best girlfriend with her (we will call her friend E) and I said yes because this other girl was in my kindergarten and I wanted to meet her because I last saw her when we were like 6 years old.

So the same day we went to the stadium, and when I got there, only R was there and E was not, so we started running and just about when I was packing my stuff to go home, E came. She was late. I just said HI and went home. After that E started chatting with me. So it was like every night we were going on the stadium with these 2 girls when one night R couldn't come and I was only with E.

It was going well till we finished the running and I wanted to go home. She grabbed one of my running shoes and said "you won't go home, we will stay and talk this night" and there it started. We started chatting every night till like 5-6 a.m. and running on the stadium turned into dating.

It was sweet. We were together every night and she was telling me her stories because till then I was focused on sports and actually this girl turned into my first in everything (kiss, bed, lover, and so on... ) but she had a bad experience in life because she was 2 years with one boy and its wasn't that good, so she was telling me everything about her past relationship and she was really hurt.

I was there for her always, supported her, and wasn't only a boyfriend to her but also best friend. So we were together like 2 months when she saw this problem that she was bad for me and only creating problems for me to deal and wanted to break up. I was telling her that she was wrong and that her problems are mine too and we can deal with them together.

I tried to fix things like 1 week after she told me she want to break up and she was always saying "go away, leave me alone". She was very confused and actually we broke up the same day she told me that she loved me. I didn't quit so she said "if I find someone else would you leave me alone" and I said "no", so she found someone else and I found about it the bad way (they didn't have sex!).

So I cut off every contact with her and after a month I found out that she broke up with this other guy because he was treating her bad. So I called her and she told me that she wanted to see me and she wants to be with me again.

After that, we met and she told me that she shouldn't have left me, that I was the first guy to treat her that good, that I was making her feel the best. Since then, we were together and everything was so good till before 1 month, she said to me that she doesn't feel the same way with me, she wasn't feeling the butterflies in her stomach.

Since then, there were some tough moments and in some cases I was about to leave her because she treated me bad and when I was about to do that, she was always scared to lose me and didn't let me go. I thought we can work things out and I can bring back the butterflies and she said that I have all the time to do it. Before 2 weeks, there was one problem between us and I said that I'm done with her. She started crying, hugged me and said that we should be together until we start hating each other and that was like a bright light for me because I thought I was losing her forever.

So it was good until yesterday. We were in her home watching a movie and while we were watching, she was acting weird. She was staying away from me, didn't allow me to hug her and so on, so when the movie ended, I asked her what's going on. She said nothing, but I saw it in her eyes and I asked her if she still wants me to be part of her life. She was sitting there looking me in the eyes and not saying anything so I grabbed my things and went to the door. She started crying and said come back. I stopped. She stood in front of me and didn't want to let me go. I thought she will say "yes i want you in my life" but she said "go away--I don't want you in my life anymore."

I was crushed, so I went away. Later that night we met on the stadium accidentally and we had a little conversation. We were saying to each other that we still love the other and that it was the best time when we were together. We were remembering some good moments and even quoted some cool things to each other from the movie we've watched earlier. So after the conversation, she again said "so now go away" and I kissed her forehead, kissed her hand like I do always when I walk her home. I said "thank you for all the good moments" and wished her happiness. She hugged me and I walked away.

Now again I have cut off all contact with her but I know that she is confused again and I want to bring her back. What do you suggest? Should I call her and if yes when? I want her to feel the empty spot and to realise she needs me. How long should I wait? Should I be worried of other guys and so on? And don't say leave her because that's not an option. Thank you :)

Doormat, thy name is Bard. She doesn't love you. I doubt that she even likes you. She has not respect for you at all. You need to count this as a favor and move on. Keep ignoring her, and stop communicating. She will keep coming back as long as you take her back, and she will keep leaving when she finds the next guy that giver her butterflies. Leaving her isn't an option, SHE LEFT YOU, more than once. I don't know how much more clear she could be that she is using you and a relationship is not her priority. You have only dated for seven months.. the drama level in this relationship is ridiculous.

Doormat, thy name is Bard. She doesn't love you. I doubt that she even likes you. She has not respect for you at all. You need to count this as a favor and move on. Keep ignoring her, and stop communicating. She will keep coming back as long as you take her back, and she will keep leaving when she finds the next guy that giver her butterflies. Leaving her isn't an option, SHE LEFT YOU, more than once. I don't know how much more clear she could be that she is using you and a relationship is not her priority. You have only dated for seven months..the drama level in this relationship is ridiculous.

I know its sounds like she is not loving me and so but before I meet her, she thought that she won't fall in love again, she won't love no one again, she won't feel the same as with her first boyfriend and so on and after some months with me she told me that all this thing that she thought won't happen anymore did happen again and I brought her dreams back.. I helped her get over her last boyfriend, I fixed her heart, helped her feel comfortable again, she even introdueced me to her mother and father, she told me that now she even loves me like she loved her first boyfriend, she told me that when she is with me she feels x100 times better and after we broke up she asked me to stay friends but I refused... I know that when you say "she dumped me twice" it sounds like she doesn't feel me but I know what we've been through and how honest she was with me so maybe the part with taking her back=coming back is correct but the part with she not loving me is wrong..

She doesn't love you. She loves your attention. People who are in love don't behave the way that she is. She loves the attention you give her. She loves that she can walk all over you and that you keep coming back for more. She loves that she can come and go as she pleases. What she has said are just words. Her actions say far more. I can't make a decision for you, but it looks like you are trying to find justification for going back to this emotionally abusive relationship. There is none, and for this point, every heartache you suffer at her hands is your choice.

She doesn't love you. She loves your attention. People who are in love don't behave the way that she is. She loves the attention you give her. She loves that she can walk all over you and that you keep coming back for more. She loves that she can come and go as she pleases. What she has said are just words. Her actions say far more. I can't make a decision for you, but it looks like you are trying to find justification for going back to this emotionally abusive relationship. There is none, and for this point, every heartache you suffer at her hands is your choice.

I know that and when you say it in that way it sounds ugly.. I've always realised that it will be this way with me and her because I've met her just 2 months after 2 years relationship she had and she was heartbroken and exhausted.. I knew that it will be hard and the one who will always look stupid because of this relationship will be me but I was ready to take this chalange because I don't like easy things so I've decided to what about a week call her to ask her how she's doing and so talk a bit and if she wants to go out ill accept and if she cuts me ill call her after one week again but this time for last time.. and if she don't accept again she is history to me...

I don't know if this will change your view on the problem but when we first started dating she also warned me what kind of person she turned into and actually that was the reason for the first broke up.. she noticed that only I'm giving and she is not doing anything and that's why she chose to leave.. for my good.. I don't take it that way but.. and also she is always telling me that she sees in me herself before and she sees in herself now her ex...

You just keep justifying to yourself why leaving her alone is not an option. So just keep going back, get kicked in the teeth, get sent home with a bruised and battered ego. Then sit and wait for the cycle to continue.

This will continue until you figure it out for yourself. When you have no more dignity and self respect, OR she loses interest, and finds something better to do. Probably a bad boy type who doesn't take her crap!!

You just keep justifying to yourself why leaving her alone is not an option. So just keep going back, get kicked in the teeth, get sent home with a bruised and battered ego. Then sit and wait for the cycle to continue.

This will continue until you figure it out for yourself. When you have no more dignity and self respect, OR she loses interest, and finds something better to do. Probably a bad boy type who doesn't take her crap!!!

When I don't take her crap she is always back.. You can't imagine how many kicks in the teeth I can get but only if its worth it.. I'll give this relationship one last chance after few days.. your comments actually are helping me a lot and no matter how bad it sounds when you hear it from some random people you really think about it.. I know your not really into all the we've been through and its my decision but you are helping me.. Thank you :)

Just keeping it real, from what you wrote, and trust me, I have seen this same thing many times, and been through it personally too many times. I know first hand the cost of giving your heart to some one over, and over, and they just keep giving it back after they wipe their a$$ with it.

Yeah love is grand, when you don't feel like an unloved idiot every few days. Walk away guy, and completely ignore her efforts to draw you back to her for more humiliation. Stop being her emotional tampon when she needs attention. Or a distraction from her own misery, and confusion.

You can do better, but won't deserve better until you do better for yourself. Face it, you can't even see that you were set up in the first place by two conniving females with an agenda. That's why you cannot see her true colors, or know what to do about it.

Good Luck.

Just keeping it real, from what you wrote, and trust me, I have seen this same thing many times, and been thru it personally too many times. I know first hand the cost of giving your heart to some one over, and over, and they just keep giving it back after they wipe their a$$ with it.

Yeah love is grand, when you don't feel like an unloved idiot every few days. Walk away guy, and completely ignore her efforts to draw you back to her for more humiliation. Stop being her emotional tampon when she needs attention. Or a distraction from her own misery, and confusion.

You can do better, but won't deserve better until you do better for yourself. Face it, you can't even see that you were set up in the first place by two conniving females with an agenda. Thats why you cannot see her true colors, or know what to do about it.

Good Luck.

Thank you.. and how I said this will be the last time I try to get her back if it don't work and things don't change she will be permanently deleted.. :)

The other girls is actually my best friend. She always supports me no matter what decision I take. She has nothing to do with it :)

It seems like you are dating a child with no idea what she wants. Break this up, leave her alone, and go on your own way. There is NO need to continue this relationship... it sounds more annoying than anything else. Love doesn't work this way.

It seems like you are dating a child with no idea what she wants. Break this up, leave her alone, and go on your own way. There is NO need to continue this relationship... it sounds more annoying than anything else. Love doesn't work this way.

Yea I made up my mind already. Thank you all :)

I feel your pain my ex did me dirty when I was a better boyfriend then the jerks she dated before me and a better friend then the people she gave her 100% then me. Don’t be a doormat for anyone just walk away and leave that person alone for good.

I feel your pain my ex did me dirty when I was a better boyfriend then the jerks she dated before me and a better friend then the people she gave her 100% then me. Don’t be a doormat for anyone just walk away and leave that person alone for good.

Maybe I can't quite that easy because she is my first love but if things don't change that won't long last :)

I know you said not to say leave her ,
But LEAVE HER , honestly I understand that you 'love' her but at the same time you need to move on , from what you mention in this it seems like your waiting for her , or for her to realize something that most likely won't happened , maybe it not you maybe its things going on in her life , things you might not know of , & its just not the best time to build a relationship . But since you really seem to care for her , try to be there for her , not as a boy friend but a friend . Nothing more nothing less . & maybe after everything is good & she's not as confused , you could try to work it out . But you can't keep waiting for her to realize something because that's just a wast of your time & she might not even realize it , hope everything works out (:

Its been a month since we broke up.. still bull.. imma do me, moving on and we will see..