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sreidy17
Mar 23, 2012, 03:02 AM
I used to like this guy and then I thought he was pissing around when he said he felt the same way. I dated someone else for a while but I couldn't stop thinking about the first guy and when he started a conversation with me I fell for him again. He genuinely sounded interested so I added some of his friends and tweeted a bit about him to see if he actually cared.

People found out I was tweeting about him and some other people at my school so I stopped talking about them and continued talking about the guy to see if people were still reading my tweets and to check if he really cared or not. He found my number somehow and asked me why I was still tweeting about him... I said to see if he cared, which is true. I asked him if he had been lying when he said he liked me and he said no, he would've done casual with me but didn't want a relationship.

We spoke a bit about school and then three days later I asked him how he found out I'd been adding his friends on Facebook even though I'd deleted him... he was OK until I asked him why his friend added me back when he supposedly liked me. He got all defensive and paranoid and accused me of stalking him even though I'd defriended his friends... He blocked me and told me to eff off and stop speaking to him.

What is wrong with him? What did I do to make him think I'm still "stalking" him?

Cat1864
Mar 23, 2012, 06:04 AM
How old are both of you?

You have been playing games instead of talking to him. I know you finally did, but even then you were 'feeling' him out instead of asking him straight out if he wanted to date. It seems he may be as confused as you are. I think he may have been doing many of the same things you were, but got embarrassed when when he felt 'caught'.

I don't think you owe him an apology. I would let it go. I don't think either of you are ready for each other.

I do think you need to be more mature about how you deal with the next person you are interested in. Don't 'stalk' the person just to see if he 'cares'. If the person is available, talk to him and maybe ask him out. Don't play games.

Good luck.

talaniman
Mar 23, 2012, 01:35 PM
You did worse than stalking, you played an online game that included his friends to see how he was feeling about you.

Take the hint and leave him and his friends alone, and learn from this to talk directly, and privately to the one whose attentions you want.

Games and test are not acceptable. Be it Facebook, or twitter.

Homegirl 50
Mar 23, 2012, 03:42 PM
Ditto to both answers. Playing games get you nowhere