I met Betty three years ago. She was single, but I was taken. We clearly shared a mutual interest in each other, but I would never have betrayed my GF, so I didn't act on this.

One year later, by chance, we met again. Both of us instantly remembered everything we talked about a year ago, and really connected... but I was still with my GF, so didn't act on it this time either.

Betty became part of our friend circle and I would see her often. We would regularly share glances and conversations that would forever be etched into my memory. There was definitely something more than friendship there; an unspoken attraction from us both.

Then she found a BF, but this chemistry never went away, for either of us.

Now, my relationship with my GF has ended, but Betty is still seeing her BF whom, she tells me, she is not in love with. She is always complaining about him and I've never heard a good word spoken about him from her, or anyone else she knows.

Recently, Betty and I have become much closer friends, spending time together and keeping in touch almost daily. During this time, we drank together and talked... a lot! We talked about how we have both recognized the chemistry I described and how we want to be close to each other and... I'm falling in love with her.

Nothing has happened physically, I won't let it, but I know we should be together. It just feels right and I know she wants it too! She recently said that "If things don't start the right way, they will end the worst way" meaning she wants to be in a better position to get closer to me. So, my question is more of an interest of opinion. What do you guys suggest I do from here?

She has to make her decision about her current relationship. Either she stays and works on it or she ends it, heals and moves on. She should not end it just to start a relationship with you. Sliding/jumping from one relationship to another is not a good way to begin a new relationship. She needs to heal and take care of the baggage so that she doesn't dump it on the next person.

I would take a step back and give her space to work out her issues. Date other people. Dating does not mean you have to be in a relationship with them. Don't try to make her jealous and stop being her crutch. Don't put your life on hold waiting for her to make up her mind.

Good advice.

I'm sure that it will happen one day as we are perfect for each other and we both know it!

I'll give her some space for now and be strong.

If you have got chemistry going, the 'spark', and it's been going for long, then as a male you should approach her first. Women generally want a male to be the first to make the step. Let's not forget that you would be expected to be making decisions as a male for most part of your family life. If you don't think that's the role you want, then wait for her to make the first move. And if things work out, don't about her being the one to make decisions for you. As a male you shouldn't enjoy that, unless you've morphed into this 'metrosexual' half-male, half-female dude. If she doesn't think that's the role she wants (being the leader), maybe you're not made for each other. I have a similar and a difficult situation too, a women is much older than me and I'm naturally more afraid of it but we seem to have that 'mutual interest', I seem to lose it when I see her and I know it upsets her. And don't think that I'm an expert. But from what I've gathered so far, it seems like in this society we forget that male should be more dominant- it's how it's always been for centuries, so women are more receptive to that- this is why that stupid tale of 'an got that dream girl' circulates (he's not an , he's just more confident and proud of his manhood than you are, no matter his looks). Approach her, scare the living crap out of her, and don't be afraid to be humiliated (that's men's job to take humility with dignity), then she will look at you as a male if she's worthy and smart enough to understand that - she will make the move, if not- she's just a teenage girl still looking for the 'glitz and glamor', don't forget as she gets old and finds no success in it, she will remember your manliness. Hope that helps.