toddcandi
Mar 17, 2012, 10:17 AM
I've been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now.
We both are after the same thing- a serious relationship.
It was real hard at first, I came in when his son was about 7. His son hated me:
He used to say things like "I wish she would burn alive"
When we would practice the throwing knives, he'd throw when I was around the board picking up.
He would kick the sit constantly when he'd sit behind me in the truck.
He would say its time to go back to moms as soon as we picked him up
Now we are very close, I love him as if he were my own, and sometimes he refers to me as his other mom.
That, though, caused a lot of problems in my boyfriends and I's relationship- which then I thought was the only problem, but now its different.
We get along fairly well, there's things we don't agree on, I hate it when he plays his gory video games, or when he'd sit on the couch all day (on weekends) and watch his same 5 shows, instead of going for walks or something sometime. And I'm trying to get into if for him, but his gun love is another hang up. Other than that there isn't a whole lot we have issues with.
Except the sex... We make love about once a month (not enough if you ask me but he seems rather fine with it). When I ask him about it he says its not me. I used to think it was his tramadol but he's been coming off that for probably 4-6 months now. He can't tell me what the issue is. And when we do make love, its always the same, starts the same, same position same everything. He won't try anything new, no new positions, he won't try letting me know he's enjoying it, nothing.
I asked him if he would consider seeing a doc about it and he said he would but if I try seeing when he would he won't answer me (he has a HUGE habit of saying whatever he thinks will end the conversation and I have a feeling this might be one of the times.)
I've been thinking about us and I'm not sure how I feel about us.
We just took over his dads auto repair business, I'm the bookkeeper, and I'm liking it, so is he. He decided to pay me $500/month under the table until things pick up so we are stable with the business. Which is fine, cause I will still be getting money in the bank and get a start on earning credit. But its been 3 months now and I haven't been paid once. He paid for a pair of shoes for me and we agreed to take it out of my pay, 2 months ago, but that's it.
Anyway I am not sure how happy I am, just when I think maybe I should give up here, he makes me feel those wonderful feelings again and I don't want to leave. I love his son like he's my own and don't want to leave him, (or take him with me, but I know I can't do that). We just moved into a great home and we're both happy here, and I feel like we have potential. We've come such a long way so I have a hard time just giving up. We've broken up 4 times, and get back together in about less than a month each time and things are always great after that for a while.
What's up here? I love him, I feel he loves me. He cuddles with me like he does. But yet I'm confused...
We both are after the same thing- a serious relationship.
It was real hard at first, I came in when his son was about 7. His son hated me:
He used to say things like "I wish she would burn alive"
When we would practice the throwing knives, he'd throw when I was around the board picking up.
He would kick the sit constantly when he'd sit behind me in the truck.
He would say its time to go back to moms as soon as we picked him up
Now we are very close, I love him as if he were my own, and sometimes he refers to me as his other mom.
That, though, caused a lot of problems in my boyfriends and I's relationship- which then I thought was the only problem, but now its different.
We get along fairly well, there's things we don't agree on, I hate it when he plays his gory video games, or when he'd sit on the couch all day (on weekends) and watch his same 5 shows, instead of going for walks or something sometime. And I'm trying to get into if for him, but his gun love is another hang up. Other than that there isn't a whole lot we have issues with.
Except the sex... We make love about once a month (not enough if you ask me but he seems rather fine with it). When I ask him about it he says its not me. I used to think it was his tramadol but he's been coming off that for probably 4-6 months now. He can't tell me what the issue is. And when we do make love, its always the same, starts the same, same position same everything. He won't try anything new, no new positions, he won't try letting me know he's enjoying it, nothing.
I asked him if he would consider seeing a doc about it and he said he would but if I try seeing when he would he won't answer me (he has a HUGE habit of saying whatever he thinks will end the conversation and I have a feeling this might be one of the times.)
I've been thinking about us and I'm not sure how I feel about us.
We just took over his dads auto repair business, I'm the bookkeeper, and I'm liking it, so is he. He decided to pay me $500/month under the table until things pick up so we are stable with the business. Which is fine, cause I will still be getting money in the bank and get a start on earning credit. But its been 3 months now and I haven't been paid once. He paid for a pair of shoes for me and we agreed to take it out of my pay, 2 months ago, but that's it.
Anyway I am not sure how happy I am, just when I think maybe I should give up here, he makes me feel those wonderful feelings again and I don't want to leave. I love his son like he's my own and don't want to leave him, (or take him with me, but I know I can't do that). We just moved into a great home and we're both happy here, and I feel like we have potential. We've come such a long way so I have a hard time just giving up. We've broken up 4 times, and get back together in about less than a month each time and things are always great after that for a while.
What's up here? I love him, I feel he loves me. He cuddles with me like he does. But yet I'm confused...