I had this friend that always was super negative about things and really vehement about how she would talk about people. She called it venting. In the beginning it was cool to commiserate with her plus it took away my loneliness, work and home deal. Anyway being raised the way that I was I would try to change the subject a lot ,or I would say did you try this, or maybe so and so was having a bad day but inside it was becoming hard to be around her.

I could feel the gloom and doom when she would enter the room and soon I was feeling anger because what nice things did she really say? So being raised the way I was I could never bring myself to tell her " look enough is enough". I told her one day that I didn't feel like we were friends for some time because she would never come to my house, it was always me going to hers and we only did the things she wanted to do, and we said a few things to one another for which I apologized to her for later, asked for her to forgive me, and told her that she was a better person than I. A mutual friend told me that I was selfish.

Maybe I could have handled it better but it was not for me to tell her that she had become a really terrible person, others already had.

I don't think you were selfish... she seems to believe the world revolved around her... and its not like you were complaining she got her way 51% of the time... it was actually 100% of the time.

Friendship is a give and take... for BOTH people... not one person doing all the giving and the other all the taking.

Being raised the way I was, being raised the way I was... culture is important, and what you have been taugh is important to. But humans have made it this far because of their ability to adapt. If you are in a place that you do not enjoy, leave... it is very simple.

Leave her alone if you can't stand her or her ways, and pick your own times for contact. She is who she is after all, and you are who you are. No shame in not being compatible, the shame is forcing it.