I'm kavita.. 23 yr.. I m in love with a guy from d last 3 yrs... now when I talked to my parents about it,they rejected due to some reasons... I know reasons are valid but at the same time the Guy I loved is also right,

My main prob is the Boy's Father is uneducated and not doing a good job.. but the guy is completely opposite.. He is well educated , good mannersed and all quality.. Prob is that my parents telling me that" how can we share the bad thing about boy's father that he is doing a job like this...we r ashame of it..".. I agree because in our family no one is uneducated & since my parents not allowign me to marry this guy...

I know I ll b very happpy with him.. but my family completely disagreed.my Mom told me that I ll attempt suicide if u marry him.. I can't live with someone else. I Don't understand at which direction I should go... Pplls suggest me something.. This is a question of my whole life.. & there is no question of Cast Problem..

You appear to have two choices - defy your parents and marry this person.. or don't. I doubt you can change their minds.

Being an adult means living with the consequences of your decisions.

If he turns out NOT to be the man you think he is... you pay for it... if you defy your parents... you pay for it. If you marry someone you absolutely hate because someone else told you to.. you pay for it.

You have to really consider what means more to you, before you decide to do it... because you can't have everything you want without consequences. And deal with the down side of your choices... which can be a very long time.

I think you should follow your heart!
You are an adult and are responsible
For u'r own happiness. My advice is
If u truly love this man then do whatever u need to do in order to be with him! Yes even if that means that u'r family may turn against you!
It's your life, u are the one who has to be happy with u'r partner not u'r family!
If they can't accept this man then u tell them they will loose U!!
Don't worry and do what makes u feel good inside because life is too short and so boring without love!!

My dear friends.. thts the big thing for me to defy my parents... see 1 thing is clear in my case is that my parents not going to convienced by me or anyone else... 2nd thing up to this 23 years of my lyf, thy gave me whatever I want, as a parents thy are very successful.. they love me a lot.. so is it possible to forget about this 23 yr relation for 3 yr of love?? & same thing I can't be happy with someone else. Because having so much memories.. but my parents telling that you ll automatically forget this in 2-3 years so thy are just not believing that I hv chosen the right person..

I don't know what advice you want. You have two choices - defy your parents or don't. If you cannot convince them that this is the right person there is nothing we here, who don't know you, who don't know him, can say to change their minds.

So - which is it? Parents? Boyfriend? I don't think you can have both. And, yes, it is possible to forget about someone you love, or, if not forget, simply move on without that person.

It's hard and painful... but it happens all the time for a variety of reasons.