Hey, I am an 18 year old guy, and well I have fallen in love with a guy at school. And I don't know what to do, but its been killing me, and I want to get over him, but I am having so much trouble trying to, I don't know how, How do I get over him?

He is my first proper big crush, and I'm not afraid to admit that I love him. The feelings started 3 years ago, when I was questioning my sexuality, and I sat beside him in school, he immediately caught my eye, this cute beautiful cool guy, who was really nice, there's nothing really not to like about him.

I never had many friends in school and I always felt nervous around people, but this guy was different, Just kind of trusted him more than anyone. He would talk to me and just friendly and it was just nice. He was like the closest person to a friend I ever had. One day he accidentally fell tripped on his bag and fell on my knee, and I looked into his eyes and helped him back up, and the feeling in my chest and heart. It was very intense and beautiful, but I didn't truly know what was going on with me.

After that year, life went back to its old lonely self, but I realized how much I missed this guy, I missed him just being beside me, and the random bits that we used to say to each other. I just missed him, and the feeling just got so much stronger. I always found him attractive, and my feelings for miss turned into something more sexual. But I hated myself for this feeling, I never wanted to be gay, and everything I felt this way, I tried to suppress the feeling.

That year we went on a school trip, and one evening I was eating my dinner alone and he called me and made room for me to sit next to him. My heart was honestly touched by it, That he actually cared, No one else would've. I think to this day, it was the most caring thing another person has done other then my parents. It completely touched my heart to bits. But of course I couldn't tell him that, because I didn't want to seem ''weird''.

Ever since that trip my feelings have gotten stronger and stronger for him. But I have always been to shy to tell him that what he has done actually meant a lot to me. I feel terrible, I just want to let him know that I really like him and he means something to me. Its now over a year and a half after that trip and I have done nothing, I have tried hard to try and get to know him and try and be closer to him. But I am so shy, and afraid to tell him how I feel.

I have always been shy, I'm not very outgoing, and I'm 18 and still have no friends whatsoever. All I ever want is one friend to talk to. I have found it hard to make friends, I find it hard talking to people, because I have always been bullied and made fun of since I went to school, and I have no confidence with people.

I am afraid to tell my parents or anyone how I feel, because they are very anti gay. I have a very catholic family. I don't have any bro's or sis, and I don't know who to talk to. I'm afraid to talk with this guy, because I don't know if he is gay or not, and I am afraid he would tell other people and I would be made fun of or hurt. I also don't want him to be uncomfortable around me. So I have never told him.
I have still so many strong feelings for him. Every time I see him, my heart sinks below deck, I feel I just want to cry, he is gorgeous, and I keep remembering times we had, Times he probably doesn't even remember, which is why I can't mention it to him. I adore him.
I don't know if he is gay, or bi or straight. Sometimes I think, maybe he likes me, sometimes I see him looking at me and then looking away and stuff, but then I think, was he even looking at me?

I wish I could look into his eyes and tell him I love him, but I'm just to afraid. It is my last year in school, we only take one class one class together and I have two months left. I really wish I could be with him, I dream of sharing my life with him and just seeing the world together, even just as a friend. He has had this impact on me, and it had meant a lot to me. I probably will never forget him, But I am having a huge problem dealing with this, I come home practically crying and feeling sad, because I love him, but can't tell him. Also I feel that even if he was gay, he wouldn't want to be with a guy like me. How do I get over him ? What do I do? I feel I need to do something, and that I have tried everything to be with him, but I'm just to shy. I love him so much, I feel something every time is see him. Its just really hard and emotional for me, Please help

I know this is A LOT to read, but I would appreciate it beyond words if someone could reply, I will give 10 points to the most helpful answer.

Hi,I'm really sorry to read that you are struggling with this at the moment.

If I were you, I would talk to him and just explain what you have said here, just tell him that you really appreciate how kind he has been to you and how you have been treated in the past so that its made a difference to you to have afriend like that.

U need to make the effort to become his friend. You don't know how he feels about u,but ask yourself, would you rather have him in your life as a close friend or not in your life at all? Its worth putting in that effort of starting a conversation with him or inviting him out somewhere one evening.
Good luck and let me know how you get on :)

Why don't you ask him? If he is a good friend, he should be able to understand. Or at least, respect the way you are and keep it under confidence.

I think if you put the romantic, sexual, part of this crush aside you may realize you might have a friend to share with. No wonder you have wrapped so much into some one that has shown you kindness. That's the dilemma here as I see it, you have no outlets, or connections other than him. That's quite a burden to put on yourself or anyone.

NEVER hate the way you feel, never! But do learn to manage, and channel them in a good orderly direction. For you I think its about family, friends. And activities, that make you happy. Like I say get over that fear and see this fellow as a friend, and know that you may be able to share your secret, which is busting to come out, so you can take a risk of being accepted by another human, gay, bi, or not.

Maybe start working on those social skills, to prepare you for the bigger world, so you won't let that fear of rejection isolate you so much you take no chances. Despite past letdowns and disappointments you have to reach out, and share yourself with other humans and those around you, and there are no guarantees for success, there will always be rejection or indifference, but unless you find the courage to overcome the fears you have and take that chance you face even more aloneness and SELF isolation.

You may not get positive results all the time, but who does, the point is to keep trying, and accept yourself, and love yourself, no matter who else does or doesn't. You are hardly alone, as I think we all want to be loved and accepted for who we are, and that starts with us loving ourselves.

None of asked to be anything, not even to be born, but we are who we are, so love it, and celebrate it every day, by doing something good for yourself. Go for it.

Good Luck!

I really think if you love someone you should tell them if they laugh or tell then they're not who you want are they?

No no no! Never ever tell tell another guy you like him especially if your not Isure of his sexuality. Think of it this way, what if the tables were turned and someone who you imaged was just a friend suddenly reveal they have a unseeming crush on you. That would make things weird afterwards.

How can I say this: If your wondering if he knows that you like him - believe me, he probably already does. You don't always have to say it, if it's pretty obvious.

What to do from here ? Well make it more obivious. How? I let you figure that out. The feelings your going through, it's good. Your finding out who you are. Get attached. Get your heart break. Stay up late at night crying. I think it's healthy.