My husband is always telling me how much he loves me and kisses me a lot. I love that he's so affectionate. My concern with this is that I think that he is controlling and insecure. Now let me say this as well because I want to give an honest view of myself as well and not just him. I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder about a year ago. I do get angry with him at times and I'm a little confused as to whether it's him being silly or just me being bipolar. I'll give you a couple of scenarios:
1. I told him that I would make him a fresh salad for dinner so when he was getting close to getting hungry to let me know and I would chop fresh veggies for him. While I was in the kitchen getting the salad together, my 17 yr old daughter came in and asked me to help her with vocabulary words. While helping her, we giggled a little bit and I was almost done. After 20 min, he comes flying out of the bedroom in a nasty tone asking me why were we laughing and playing when I should be finished with the salad? I felt very offended because he did it in front of my daughter(his stepchild). I was at a loss for words. She looked at me with concern and I played it off and said I'm almost done. Je got even nastier with his words. I just politely put the salad in the fridge and walked in the bedroom trying not to act silly in front of my daughter. I told him quietly to get it himself.

2. I have a best friend of 14 years or more who we totally adore each others family. We call ourselves sisters and our families are all very close. We have always done everything together because I was single for seven almost eight years before I met my now husband. My previous husband passed away(meningitis). Well to make a long story shorter, my sis(bf) and I stop spending time together after I got married. Well we tried to start having lunch together every two weeks just to hang out and maybe go shopping. My husband gives me serious h*** when I want to hang out with her. He accuses me of being a lesbian with her and says we are up to no good. We have NEVER been intimate or anything of the sort. We just enjoy being around each other. I'm her only boyfriend. She is an only child and her mom passed away two years ago from liver disease. So we are like glue. My husband hates her and I have done everything possible to include him in everything with her and her husband. He calls her all kind of bad things and me too sometimes because she's my boyfriend. I get so angry and furious with him. I just don't understand it.
3. We went to a concert one day and I had on prescription sunglasses, not the ones that change. These were $400 Fendi shades that I worked hard to be able to splurge on. While at the concert in the park, it started getting and I didn't realize I didn't have my glasses, I left them in the car. I kept my shades on because they were prescription and that's the only way I could see. My husband got mad and made me take my shades off because he thought I was watching guys and he couldn't see my eyes. So I just sat there and looked like a fool because I couldn't see the performers.
Please help me, is it me that has the problem?

Sorry but this iPhone and it's autocorrect lol. I meant best friend and not boyfriend lol.

I'm glad you straightened that up because I was seriously confused!


So anyway... has he hit you? It does sound like he is controlling and doesn't think of you as an equal to himself. Have you two tried counseling? Both of you may be able to benefit from that.

If it was me, I'd explain to him how it is and how it's going to be and if he doesn't like that, I would go on with the next step. There is no need for you to be disrespected and treated in such a way. It is bad that he does the yelling for no reason but then to tell you who can be your friends and when you can go somewhere with them... that is just too much.

He has hit me before. I have sat down with him several times and talked to him about how I feel like I'm in a fishbowl and it doesn't feel good. He listens to me and he even breaks down crying sometimes but he is still so mean and rude sometimes. I'm like really at the end of my rope with him. This is how silly he is. A lady ran the red light the other day and hit a car with looked to be like a younger lady driving by herself. I went to get out to check on her and he drove off saying the police will take care of it. Really, who does that? This has really made me think twice about who I'm married to!

You should be thinking twice about it since he hits you. No excuses for that at all.

Counseling or divorce... those are the only 2 choices I would make. Maybe he's sweet and kind to you at times but any man that would hit a woman isn't worth being around.

You are right. It's really been on my mind heavily. My family doesn't really know because he makes sure no one is around. I don't have anything physically to show but emotionally I'm dying inside and my soul is sooo tired! Thank you for being so straight forward with me, I have a lot to think about. Thank you!

I just hope you can turn things around and that you can find your way to a better life... this is why I give honest answers here.

Good luck to you.