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ro_semudeged
Mar 1, 2012, 09:05 PM
Okay I'm now going to ask the internet because my friends are of no help. When I bring it up they're just like "He's gay!" They don't say it in a bad way, it's just their way of saying we have no idea :/
(Freshman year 10-11)
I met my boyfriend because my best friend happens to go out with his best friend haha. We didn't really talk much the first few months of school but once our friends started to hangout we were around each other a lot. We also have the same major so I saw him in classes quite a bit. Anyway one night he got kicked out his room because my best friend wanted to be alone with his best friend hehe. Whenever this happen he'd either head to my room or to the library. He ended up coming to my room but long story short he found out about a small embarrassing secret I have. No one knew besides my really close friends. I was really worked up and mad. I begged him to tell no one and that's exactly what he did. I was really surprised because my BESTFRIENDS were even a little shocked after I told them. He didn't even care and was completely cool with it :)

Like stated before our group of friends hung out and after the incident I started to take notice of him. A LOT. He's somewhat anti-social by that I mean he's not really a party person and a bit too relaxed sometimes, but when he did come out he was super fun to be around. I'm really outgoing but I guess the saying "opposites attract" can apply here. We never really had one on one time but I was obsessed with him the last month of school. So right before he left to go back home (he's an out-of-state student) I told him we really need to hangout more together and to text me over he summer.

(Sophomore year 11-12)
The next we hung out together a lot and found out we had a lot more in common then we thought. After the first month we were officially going out :) Things were going great. I like to think I bring him out of his shell a little and he absolutely mellows me down.

Okay sorry for the really detailed story I know people might just skip to the question but I wanted you to get a feel for what's going on. And this is really my last option because my friends are of no help and I even got his best friend to help out but its not working.

FINALLY here is the problem. We've been going out since Oct. And we haven't gone further then making out! He hasn't made a move AT ALL! Nothing! I know I said he shy but still! I was going crazy until his best friend told me he was a virgin and I thought I figured it all out. I told I had NO problem with him being a virgin and seemed happy but that was 2 months ago! And he still hasn't attempted anything. I'm feeling really unloved.

Any ideas, similar stories and how they fixed it? Or how it ended... I really like him.

Fr_Chuck
Mar 1, 2012, 09:28 PM
You were OK with him being a virgin then, why are you not OK with it now. Being a virgin means he does not have sex. Perhaps he does not have plans on having sex before he is old, or married or something else.

Sounds like you told him it was OK not to have sex since you were OK with him being a virgin.
So why is having sex at such a early age so important to you.

ro_semudeged
Mar 2, 2012, 07:47 AM
ADDED DETAILS---

I'm okay with him being a virgin. I do not care if he's nervous or "bad" at first. Also he's not religious at all, he doesn't want to wait till marriage. Also the reason I know this because he lied to me about not being a virgin earlier. He lied because he didn't want to think he was weird.

JudyKayTee
Mar 2, 2012, 08:55 AM
Maybe he feels the same about you as you feel about him - you really LIKE him - and he only wants to have sex with people he LOVES.