willdabeastx812
Feb 29, 2012, 02:35 PM
So recently my girlfriend (17) and I (18) decided to mutually break up, but she brought up the idea. She felt she was too stressed with the fact of having a relationship where she had to hide it from her parents and sneaking out to see me and she wanted to do better in school so she could boost her GPA. We've been together for 14 months and love each other like crazy, having rarely any fights at all. She told me she needed time and space for herself to think and to improve her grades. We still love each other, but she won't take me back any time soon because she said she wanted to see how things go and if she's ready, then there's a chance.
However, we promised that we'd get back with each other and have a future/get married etc eventually but that could be anytime from now till 6 years later (I know we're young and sound naive). She told me that I was too perfect for her because I treated her so well and still got good grades even though I'm in college 300 miles away from her staying strong for the relationship till she got freedom (distance didn't matter for us because we were able to get through it without stressing). She felt like I deserved better, but I told her that she was perfect to me because she was everything I ever wanted and even more.
So she decided to bring up the idea of seeing other people to see what we really like and want in relationships, but plans to get back together because she said she knows she'd never have as perfect of a relationship as we had since no one has ever treated her like I have and she believes no one ever will. Anyway, we have so many gifts and memories, so I don't know what I should do with them, perhaps store them away and try to do as she says, to just give her time and space so maybe she'd get back with me even before dating others (as her primary focus of breaking up was focusing in school, but she'd get back if she got too depressed).
I understand that that's not very likely because I want her to do well in school, just in the back of my mind, I want to know we'd be back together because what we had had no flaws to it except for the freedom and grades and we still love each other very much, but remaining as best friends for now. What should I do with the memories, and how should I handle the situation with her? By the way, I'm going back home next week for spring break, should I see her? Keep my distance? Do what she wants when I'm with her? Be as I normally am, sweet, caring, funny etc?
Please help, I'm so confused because I want the highest chance possible of being on her good side even though I'd move on and just be best friends so she could have what she wants, and so we could eventually continue what we had. Help, and thanks in advance! (I've already tried getting her back, most I've got out of her is that we settled it happily and are trying it out so far, but promised we'd eventually (now till 6 years later) get back together even though it may sound ridiculous. I've always just believed in the quote about letting things go, and having them come back to you then they're yours, but if not then they never were.
Please help, I'll add any additional detail, if anything updates or comes to mind!
However, we promised that we'd get back with each other and have a future/get married etc eventually but that could be anytime from now till 6 years later (I know we're young and sound naive). She told me that I was too perfect for her because I treated her so well and still got good grades even though I'm in college 300 miles away from her staying strong for the relationship till she got freedom (distance didn't matter for us because we were able to get through it without stressing). She felt like I deserved better, but I told her that she was perfect to me because she was everything I ever wanted and even more.
So she decided to bring up the idea of seeing other people to see what we really like and want in relationships, but plans to get back together because she said she knows she'd never have as perfect of a relationship as we had since no one has ever treated her like I have and she believes no one ever will. Anyway, we have so many gifts and memories, so I don't know what I should do with them, perhaps store them away and try to do as she says, to just give her time and space so maybe she'd get back with me even before dating others (as her primary focus of breaking up was focusing in school, but she'd get back if she got too depressed).
I understand that that's not very likely because I want her to do well in school, just in the back of my mind, I want to know we'd be back together because what we had had no flaws to it except for the freedom and grades and we still love each other very much, but remaining as best friends for now. What should I do with the memories, and how should I handle the situation with her? By the way, I'm going back home next week for spring break, should I see her? Keep my distance? Do what she wants when I'm with her? Be as I normally am, sweet, caring, funny etc?
Please help, I'm so confused because I want the highest chance possible of being on her good side even though I'd move on and just be best friends so she could have what she wants, and so we could eventually continue what we had. Help, and thanks in advance! (I've already tried getting her back, most I've got out of her is that we settled it happily and are trying it out so far, but promised we'd eventually (now till 6 years later) get back together even though it may sound ridiculous. I've always just believed in the quote about letting things go, and having them come back to you then they're yours, but if not then they never were.
Please help, I'll add any additional detail, if anything updates or comes to mind!