Silver Lining
Feb 29, 2012, 03:23 AM
This is a LONG story.
I met this girl LRM back in college, 2001. We hit off well, right from the beginning. Within days, we became best friends. Right from the start, our dean, who is a friend of my dad, had warned me that LRM was a bad egg, and I need to be careful. But I ignored. Several things happened and I had a huge fight with the vice principal, supporting her.
We both have boy friends. A year later, she broke up with her guy and was devastated. I was there to support her. Then, after a few months, she found this other guy who wanted to date her. Since she was unsure, she asked my opinion. I remember what she said, "Love Happens Just Once in your life, should I date ?" and I said, "THE FIRST GUY was not LOVE,,, the new guy might be." She started dating him.
Since our college was behind times, and had lot of restrictions on dating and stuff, we had to hide our love life. Parents were strict too. LRM kind of started going out in the open and risked getting caught. I asked her to be careful, and since my love life was in deep, she thought I was jealous. Finally, one day, her dad got a letter and found out about her guy. She blamed it on me. She thought I wrote it. We had a huge fight and a LOT of bad things happened between us. We didn't speak after that.
In the final year of college, I started dating this guy. Slowly the stories came pouring out. He and I were friends while I was in 2nd year. That was when I had a fight with LRM. Turned out, my guy wrote to LRMs dad. He wanted to break our friendship, so he could get close to me. Disappointed, I broke up with him.
After finishing MBA, I got married. I sent a mail to LRM, giving her all facts (3 years after our fight). Since my ex guy tried to tamper with my wedding too, I didn't give LRM his full name, I just gave his initials. I extended my hand in friendship. She replied with a lot of swears.
A year later, she started online dating some guy and my topic was opened. That guy sent all their chat history to me. I was so angry, I sent her a mail back, this time, I was swearing. She apologized. We became friends,, a month later, she was her old self,, I mean the old gal after fight. She started blaming me for her problems and so I stopped talking to her. I had a lot of friends until our first fight. She turned all my friends, and also my cousin against me. I lost trust in friendship. I NEVER made any gal friends after that. I just couldn't trust girls. I was a total wreck when it came to making friends. Hence, I hardly have any friends now. There are a lot of guy friends, but its not the same. Gals talk different.
It has been 5 years since we spoke. I miss her a lot. We fought because of a major misunderstanding. She has blocked me on FB. I don't know what to do. I still find it hard to trust any girl. I feel I need to talk to her, work out things with her, and only then be able to make more gal friends.
Can anyone help?
I met this girl LRM back in college, 2001. We hit off well, right from the beginning. Within days, we became best friends. Right from the start, our dean, who is a friend of my dad, had warned me that LRM was a bad egg, and I need to be careful. But I ignored. Several things happened and I had a huge fight with the vice principal, supporting her.
We both have boy friends. A year later, she broke up with her guy and was devastated. I was there to support her. Then, after a few months, she found this other guy who wanted to date her. Since she was unsure, she asked my opinion. I remember what she said, "Love Happens Just Once in your life, should I date ?" and I said, "THE FIRST GUY was not LOVE,,, the new guy might be." She started dating him.
Since our college was behind times, and had lot of restrictions on dating and stuff, we had to hide our love life. Parents were strict too. LRM kind of started going out in the open and risked getting caught. I asked her to be careful, and since my love life was in deep, she thought I was jealous. Finally, one day, her dad got a letter and found out about her guy. She blamed it on me. She thought I wrote it. We had a huge fight and a LOT of bad things happened between us. We didn't speak after that.
In the final year of college, I started dating this guy. Slowly the stories came pouring out. He and I were friends while I was in 2nd year. That was when I had a fight with LRM. Turned out, my guy wrote to LRMs dad. He wanted to break our friendship, so he could get close to me. Disappointed, I broke up with him.
After finishing MBA, I got married. I sent a mail to LRM, giving her all facts (3 years after our fight). Since my ex guy tried to tamper with my wedding too, I didn't give LRM his full name, I just gave his initials. I extended my hand in friendship. She replied with a lot of swears.
A year later, she started online dating some guy and my topic was opened. That guy sent all their chat history to me. I was so angry, I sent her a mail back, this time, I was swearing. She apologized. We became friends,, a month later, she was her old self,, I mean the old gal after fight. She started blaming me for her problems and so I stopped talking to her. I had a lot of friends until our first fight. She turned all my friends, and also my cousin against me. I lost trust in friendship. I NEVER made any gal friends after that. I just couldn't trust girls. I was a total wreck when it came to making friends. Hence, I hardly have any friends now. There are a lot of guy friends, but its not the same. Gals talk different.
It has been 5 years since we spoke. I miss her a lot. We fought because of a major misunderstanding. She has blocked me on FB. I don't know what to do. I still find it hard to trust any girl. I feel I need to talk to her, work out things with her, and only then be able to make more gal friends.
Can anyone help?