I been with my boyfriend since 2009 graduating from high school. I really didn't like him like that because he was somebody that was way out of my league. So to make a long story short, I found out he was cheating on me when I was 4 months pregnant with his child and he really didn't stop cheating until I had my son 2010 in March.

So we move on from that--well, at least I try because come to find out he had a daughter in Minnesota whom I didn't know about until I was 6 months. Then he messed around with his baby mama when she came to visit. She told me he told her that we weren't together. She was just telling me a lot that he said he never slept with her. I know that is a lie because she wouldn't make that up.

So as the months and years went past, I stayed with him and forgave him, but I didn't forget because I still haven't got over it. I'm 21 now and was with him when I was 18 years old when I first met him.

So I met someone when he went to jail for a couple of days. So I started talking to this young man and gained feelings and he already was telling me he loves me and I think I love him too but how do I choose?

First: What!

Second: I think it was wrong for him to do what he did. But for you to stay around him. That's just wrong. You don't have to take my advice because I'm only 18.

Third: I don't quite understand the boy in jail story.

You don't choose.

You break up with the guy you're dating now, and then you remain single for a while, get some perspective, stand on your own, and then, when you're ready, you start dating again.

Don't jump from the frying pan into the fire.

Alty is right. Break up with the first guy and stay unattached for a while.
You have been attached to someone for a long time. Stand on your own for a while. Don't jump right into another relationship

This first guy you talk about really is a worthless boyfriend. He has mistreated and totally disrespected you. It's in your best interest to break up with him and forget about him. Once you're away from him and your mind is clear, then you can start looking for someone that will respect you.