My girlfriend broke up with my a week ago after saying she's not 'in love with me' but still loves me.

Now, the last few months I've had an absolutely terrible time. My grandparent died, I've been suffering from depression, and being a serious long distance runner - I also got injured and haven't been able to run for a month or so. I was also attacked and mugged a month ago.

Basically - things haven't been going well for me. Before all this started to happen (Christmas time) things were great with us and we were really in love. But, being the stupid idiot I am I tried to keep a lot of how things have been affecting me recently from her, and I think I started to take things out on the relationship (creating problems, trying to convince myself I didn't love her etc) and I think it eventually just got too much from her.

I know she still loves me, but I'm not sure what to do. I told her about all of this stuff after we broke up, and I said I need some time to sort my head out and become 'me' again, but I don't think that's something I can simply achieve, I think it's something I need to be mindful of, always.

What should I do? How long should I leave it before I talk to her? I know in this situation I should wait for her to come back to me - but I know full well I'm the one that messed things up, so the onus is on me.

I know I need to give her space; but I'm so desperate to prove that things can be different - and I really don't want to end up leaving it too long...

Please help.

Anthony

Leave her alone guy, and get your own act together. When you get dumped you don't pursue even harder and make things worse. You leave them alone and do your own thing. If they change their minds the onus is on them, to find you, and not you to fix things.

Sorry, not the magic advise you wanted to hear. But bow out gracefully, and keep your dignity, and self respect.

My opinion is to talk to her about everything you held back from her near the end of your relationship, tell her exactly how you feel, and that you believe it was yourself that drove you guys apart, but don't use this with intentions to get back with her. If she does still love you, she will listen to what you have to say and sympathize with you. As for getting back with her, time will have to heal that. Lay everything on the table for her to see, then it will have to be left up to her whether she sees your making steps towards becoming yourself again.
BTW I'm very sorry for your recent losses and heartache... I hope things work out for you

Yes, you give it forever. She has broken up with you, and has done it gracefully as any girl that cares about you does. But that doesn't mean get your hopes up and wait for her to come back. Her decision has been made, respect it, keep yourself busy, and start moving on. If she comes back, great, at that moment you will have a choice. For now, you need to leave her alone, and start living your life as a single man again, enjoy. ;)

For your next relationship, remember that no one likes to be used as an emotional crutch.

Hey there, I'm very sorry to hear about all the bad things that happened at once for you. I really feel for you as the same thing happened to me only about a week ago. Im so upset at the moment and I think about her everyday but I realised it takes two people to create a relationship and obviously there were reasons for my ex to do what she did. I said to myself it doesn't matter what it is and I don't need to know why because she left. If she wants to came back then she will. No one can make her. I'm a person who doesn't force anyone to be with me. I'm doing the No Contact and I'm doing my own things its making me feel better, its early days but I think ill get there, hope everything works out for you. All the best.