I guess the title is self explanatory, I'm a male, 17 years old, a virgin.

I'm in a relationsip and I guess me wanting sex is tearing it apart so I've decided to not think/want sex at all.

Any hints?

You don't stop thinking about it, but you put it where it belongs, in something you look forward to, some time in the future. I will assume you masterbate on some regular basis, this often helps calm the urges. But the urges are normal, and just have to be controlled.

Well how do I control them? At least

Do like we did in the '50s and '60s -- sublimate. Dive into school and work and hobbies and sports and reading for pleasure and hiking and cleaning house (the big jobs) under Mom's supervision. Stay busy.