malinihema
Feb 27, 2012, 08:48 AM
I am a married 45 year old woman staying with my husband and a daughter & son. Recently I met a 29 year old guy on a social networking site and we started chatting. The mistake I made is that was a false account with different name which is not mine and I used my 20 year old daughter's photo as display picture. The guy thought the person who is chatting with him is this 20 year old beautiful girl and even I made him think the same way. After a few chats both of us became so close and I didn't want to lose his friendship. I knew this relationship doesn't last and I knew what a big crime I am committing using m daughter's photo. No mother would do such a thing.
But still I do not know what my weakness is I continued chatting with him day in and day out. Basically both of us are from India. He has been staying in US for the past 2 years and I have been staying in Dubai with my husband and children. Somehow we used to adjust timings and chat. After a month or so he proposed to me thinking that I am a girl in the photo which is actually my daughter's. I should have stopped chatting with him at least then. But I continued chatting with him accepting his proposal even knowing that it does no good to both of us. If he finds the truth he would definitely back off and even I could never leave my husband and children for him. I do not know what made me continue chatting with him. We never met or spoke on telephone. It was only chatting.
He came to a stage that he can't live without me. Yesterday he saw my daughter's profile in Facebook with her photo and a different name. In her friends list my husband is also there and he saw his photo also with his name. Actually I showed my husband's photo as my dad's photo giving him a false name. He became suspicious and asked me this morning about the Facebook account on different name and having my father photo(husband's) with different name. I couldn't answer him and told him I do not know the person in the account and told him that I will ask my father about his photo in the account and disconnected.
He asked persistently whether I knew the girl with that name to which I replied in negative. He believed me and started sending off lines saying that he is missing me and loves me very much. I logged in and just typed that I cannot talk to him anything now as I am fully devastated and logged off. He is continuously sending off lines saying that he is missing me and saying that he is tensed now that he may lose me. I do not know what to do. He is a very good guy and believed me and loved me wholeheartedly. I feel ashamed of myself for committing such dirty mistakes at this age. If my children and husband comes to know about this my life will be completely ruined. I do not know what to do. I cannot see the guy also suffering because of me.
Please help me. Should I tell the truth to the guy or should I just stay away from chatting with that guy. Now he came to know the original name and college of my daughter in Facebook account and I am worried he may reach Dubai and approach her. I feel so cheap of myself. I really don't know what made me commit such a big mistake. Maybe I'm lacking something in life I do not know. Please help me.
But still I do not know what my weakness is I continued chatting with him day in and day out. Basically both of us are from India. He has been staying in US for the past 2 years and I have been staying in Dubai with my husband and children. Somehow we used to adjust timings and chat. After a month or so he proposed to me thinking that I am a girl in the photo which is actually my daughter's. I should have stopped chatting with him at least then. But I continued chatting with him accepting his proposal even knowing that it does no good to both of us. If he finds the truth he would definitely back off and even I could never leave my husband and children for him. I do not know what made me continue chatting with him. We never met or spoke on telephone. It was only chatting.
He came to a stage that he can't live without me. Yesterday he saw my daughter's profile in Facebook with her photo and a different name. In her friends list my husband is also there and he saw his photo also with his name. Actually I showed my husband's photo as my dad's photo giving him a false name. He became suspicious and asked me this morning about the Facebook account on different name and having my father photo(husband's) with different name. I couldn't answer him and told him I do not know the person in the account and told him that I will ask my father about his photo in the account and disconnected.
He asked persistently whether I knew the girl with that name to which I replied in negative. He believed me and started sending off lines saying that he is missing me and loves me very much. I logged in and just typed that I cannot talk to him anything now as I am fully devastated and logged off. He is continuously sending off lines saying that he is missing me and saying that he is tensed now that he may lose me. I do not know what to do. He is a very good guy and believed me and loved me wholeheartedly. I feel ashamed of myself for committing such dirty mistakes at this age. If my children and husband comes to know about this my life will be completely ruined. I do not know what to do. I cannot see the guy also suffering because of me.
Please help me. Should I tell the truth to the guy or should I just stay away from chatting with that guy. Now he came to know the original name and college of my daughter in Facebook account and I am worried he may reach Dubai and approach her. I feel so cheap of myself. I really don't know what made me commit such a big mistake. Maybe I'm lacking something in life I do not know. Please help me.