LUK3Y
Feb 26, 2012, 09:48 PM
Hey all,
Start with a brief story of the ex
Had known her all my life (The day she was born I was one years old in her hospital room). Our fathers knew each other from teenagers and were always very close so our families always kept in touch. Best man at each others wedding and so on. They always used to joke that one day I'd get their daughter.
Anyway, fast forward to last year and she ads me via Facebook.
We catch up a few times, ht it off really well on the first night great sex etc etc.
We keep seeing each other and as things went on we got more and more passionate and everything just felt so right and gelled so well as it always does at the start all fun etc etc
I was seeing her for a few months and she would bring up the relationship a few times, until after a few months I decided OK, and asked her to be my girlfriend.
She was still certain she wanted this.
Now for the downside. ---------------
Before me she was with someone for approx five years (renting with him) She told me the last two years they were on the rocks and she had enough of being unhappy and being treated like **** so she left him. She had only just left him before she met me hence why I waited to be exclusive for a few months.
Not only was she with him for a long time, but she had a house half built with him at the time which they still both owned. She built with him as she thought this would make things better between them. (Which is crazy in my opinion as it would only ever be a quick fix if any fix at all)
Fast forward a few months later and the house is finished, his name is still on the title also, but she moves in on her own wanting to do so.
During this time I notice she starts to get distant. A little cold, seemingly depressed.
I guess it started to hit her (Her ex)
Months later, yep she pulls out the I need a break, I need me time I need time to find my feet..
With everything going on I can't be in a healthy relationship and its not fair on you.
I fought for it for a while, mainly through texts as she would start to not answer the phone at times and figured she can call me if she wants to talk.
Later down the line it seems her ex is back in the picture, which I'm sure would've been happening when she was being distant with me. She denies anything about him and does not admit to anything or even being back with him.
Could she be using him to finish off the house (Apparently he is unwilling to throw it away and she does not want to either as she worked hard for it, or are they both holding on to more than that?) Mind you I was staying over with her at this house which was half his at the time, but he had no access. And yes I was banging the life out of her in the bed which they probably now do share.
I let it go and decided to work on me, but every few days she would send a text such as merry Xmas, then happy new year. Or how are you, or miss you x. All sorts of **** to what seems like keeping me there. This would happen every few days. I haven't seen her since the break... approx November last year nor spoken on the phone yet she continues to ****ing text me. When I bring up catching up or a phone call she ignores it, and I ask if you miss me then why is it how it is at the moment she ignores. Sometimes she will take a day to reply.
My head tells me she knows she has me there while she goes off and does what she likes, but I want to hear your opinions on this, whenever it seems like I'm letting her go its like she throws a quick text to try reel me back in.
She will say things like thought you wouldn't give up so easy. Or your right, you gave me what I wanted, I'm just a selfish *****
How do I handle this?
How do I make her want me back?
Why do I want her back, and do I really want her back?
What is going on in her mind and life with me, her ex, and the house?
What does this make of her ex? I was even considering chatting with him about it, don't know him but I can get a hold of him (Just to find out for me).
Will they even end up working out if that's what is going on?
On top of all this she had a wedding a few weeks back to attend, we went to three of them when we were together. She texts me saying a wedding without you there... doesn't feel right, I didn't reply and three days later she responds with, so I guess that's it then?
When she texted me merry Xmas I responded the same a day later and she told me it made her have a **** day... yeah OK
I guess she is really just keeping me there, perhaps if I put my foot down and put her in place the **** will change.
Sorry guys but I'm a ****ing mess right now and need as many opinions views and advice as possible
Start with a brief story of the ex
Had known her all my life (The day she was born I was one years old in her hospital room). Our fathers knew each other from teenagers and were always very close so our families always kept in touch. Best man at each others wedding and so on. They always used to joke that one day I'd get their daughter.
Anyway, fast forward to last year and she ads me via Facebook.
We catch up a few times, ht it off really well on the first night great sex etc etc.
We keep seeing each other and as things went on we got more and more passionate and everything just felt so right and gelled so well as it always does at the start all fun etc etc
I was seeing her for a few months and she would bring up the relationship a few times, until after a few months I decided OK, and asked her to be my girlfriend.
She was still certain she wanted this.
Now for the downside. ---------------
Before me she was with someone for approx five years (renting with him) She told me the last two years they were on the rocks and she had enough of being unhappy and being treated like **** so she left him. She had only just left him before she met me hence why I waited to be exclusive for a few months.
Not only was she with him for a long time, but she had a house half built with him at the time which they still both owned. She built with him as she thought this would make things better between them. (Which is crazy in my opinion as it would only ever be a quick fix if any fix at all)
Fast forward a few months later and the house is finished, his name is still on the title also, but she moves in on her own wanting to do so.
During this time I notice she starts to get distant. A little cold, seemingly depressed.
I guess it started to hit her (Her ex)
Months later, yep she pulls out the I need a break, I need me time I need time to find my feet..
With everything going on I can't be in a healthy relationship and its not fair on you.
I fought for it for a while, mainly through texts as she would start to not answer the phone at times and figured she can call me if she wants to talk.
Later down the line it seems her ex is back in the picture, which I'm sure would've been happening when she was being distant with me. She denies anything about him and does not admit to anything or even being back with him.
Could she be using him to finish off the house (Apparently he is unwilling to throw it away and she does not want to either as she worked hard for it, or are they both holding on to more than that?) Mind you I was staying over with her at this house which was half his at the time, but he had no access. And yes I was banging the life out of her in the bed which they probably now do share.
I let it go and decided to work on me, but every few days she would send a text such as merry Xmas, then happy new year. Or how are you, or miss you x. All sorts of **** to what seems like keeping me there. This would happen every few days. I haven't seen her since the break... approx November last year nor spoken on the phone yet she continues to ****ing text me. When I bring up catching up or a phone call she ignores it, and I ask if you miss me then why is it how it is at the moment she ignores. Sometimes she will take a day to reply.
My head tells me she knows she has me there while she goes off and does what she likes, but I want to hear your opinions on this, whenever it seems like I'm letting her go its like she throws a quick text to try reel me back in.
She will say things like thought you wouldn't give up so easy. Or your right, you gave me what I wanted, I'm just a selfish *****
How do I handle this?
How do I make her want me back?
Why do I want her back, and do I really want her back?
What is going on in her mind and life with me, her ex, and the house?
What does this make of her ex? I was even considering chatting with him about it, don't know him but I can get a hold of him (Just to find out for me).
Will they even end up working out if that's what is going on?
On top of all this she had a wedding a few weeks back to attend, we went to three of them when we were together. She texts me saying a wedding without you there... doesn't feel right, I didn't reply and three days later she responds with, so I guess that's it then?
When she texted me merry Xmas I responded the same a day later and she told me it made her have a **** day... yeah OK
I guess she is really just keeping me there, perhaps if I put my foot down and put her in place the **** will change.
Sorry guys but I'm a ****ing mess right now and need as many opinions views and advice as possible