I know what you're thinking... "she doesn't really hate you, she's just mad". But she has told my dad she hates me and she does mean it. I can tell when she means things. So before I start boring you with the details, believe me when I say she hates me.
First of all:
I have 3 siblings; 2 brothers (26 & 2) and a sister (19).
I'm 16, and I don't do drugs, drink, I have never done anything sexually, I'm passing school with A's & B's, I'm the only kid that ever made it farther than 9th grade (I'm a Junior and still in school). And I don't hate my siblings, I'm just stating facts. In fact, my sister is my best friend, we are as close as they come.<3
My sister is 19, she has 2 kids, she's a prostitute, she smokes 5 blunts (of weed, of course) a day. Occasionally does coke, an ex-alcoholic, dropped out in 9th grade (by force of my mom, no lie).
My older brother is 26, has been in prison for 4 years, has been in and out of juvie and jail since he was 14, has gotten 4 girls pregnant, has done literally EVERY drug out there, ex-alcoholic, has stolen thousands of dollars worth of our stuff, dropped out in 7th grade, when he was 15 he burned down an apartment complex with his friend (it killed people)
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Yet, my mom thinks they are perfect angels. My mom hates me. She hasn't said I love you since I was 11. She's put me through so much, I couldn't even sum it up in an hour. I currently struggle with bulimia and severe depression and she knows about it. She told my sister and she said I was just doing it for attention and that I'm just bored. My sister is on my side, of course, and told her she needs to stop being so selfish and open her eyes, I need help. Which is true. But, my mom said she wants to send me away and give up on me. I'm not even that bad! I have parties with my friends, but I'm ALWAYS sober through them , and I make really smart decisions. I just don't get it. Can someone please explain?

I don't know if your mom hates you or not, but it sounds like you are in a tough situation and my heart reallyd oes go out to you. Is there another adult, or counselor you can talk to? Maybe someone at school? Is there an aunt or grandparent you could stay with for a while? I'm really sorry you are feeling this way, I can't imagine how frustrating it would be for you.

Hey,
Its obvious your mom hates u,, look at u, your so different compared to your siblings,, there, your mom has 2 perfect angles, and then she has u,,

Get out of this depression,, sure, you need a mother and her love, but you can live without it,, you are 16 and innocent, unlike your brother... study, get a job and get out of that hell,, u make your own future, remember that,, be something before your forced to do something wrong,,
You are strong, remember that,, u have a sister who loves u,, take life positively, don't turn out to be like your brother,, work part-time and fund your education before your mom pulls you out of school,,

Why are you saying the two siblings are perfect angles? I don't get what you are trying to say here...

Unfortunately, there are mothers in the world who have severe problems and cannot take care of their children properly. It seems obvious that your mother has some mental illness and abusive tendencies. I'm also concerned that your father is not doing enough to protect you. What was his purpose for telling you your mother "hates" you?

That being said, I certainly hope your mother doesn't "hate" you, but I do believe there are times that a troubled parent can't relate to their child and acts out toward them. Based on what you said, you don't have much in common and she's aware of that. That doesn't make you a bad person! That may just mean that you represent the things she could never manage to accomplish in her own life; and she could be jealous. Sometimes, "misery loves company" and that could be why she acts closer to your siblings, who are obviously very troubled themselves.

You're in a very difficult situation. Do you have any trusted adults (besides your siblings) who can help you?

You have parties but stay straight? Does that mean your friends don't? That alone could concern your mother.

I doubt your mother hates you. She may simply be overwhelmed by your siblings and their problems.

You could always ask her - you also should talk to an adult who is close to the situation, sees the situation, can give you advice.

Aurora,, m being sarcastic...

Sarcasim is all good and fine, in the right time and place, but this was a cry for help. We can't read sarcasim.

Sarcasim is all good and fine, in the right time and place, but this was a cry for help. We can't read sarcasim.



Well said -