Ok so this started like a Month ago. We are both single. I am 4 months out of a 4 year relationship. So I'm looking for a good time and a little comfort. No relationship. He is busy with school and sports ( he is a college freshman and I am a sophomore) and I am a little less busy. I want him to come when I throw hints. I don't want to think he is going to come then him not. We have been together like 5 times. I just want to know an I expecting too much out of him. I thought a **** buddy was someone who came over to have sex and leave the next morning. Am I wrong?

No, you are not wrong. I mean he may have other stuff going on, but what college guy wouldn't want sex... maybe you just need to explain what you want. Its pretty obvious though. And, if he can't handle your needs then just find another college cutie willing to be your f.w.b.

It's weird because we agreed that being fwb was a great idea and we were both cool with it. I think he might be shy or dumb. Idk. I just feel like if he wants this he would put a tiny bit more effort into it.

Maybe he is just dumb. I think he does need to put a little more effort into it. Its not like it takes up his entire day or he doesn't get anything out of it. Maybe he's just not the right one for this type of arrangement .

You "throw hints"? Why don't you just come out and tell him? Hints don't work for most guys. Many of us need to be told something outright without hints.

Maybe you are right maybe he is not right for this but he is so good in bed! And about throwing hints instead of that I may just say can you come over. Now! But like I text him last night letting him know my plans have changed for the weekend and I'll be in town and said "u know what that means" and nothing then this morning... Nothing. What the heck

This may sound harsh, but I hope it gets you thinking about more than your 'needs'.

He is a human being. He is not a toy for you to take out of drawer just because you need sex. He has a life and is not at your beck and call.

I think you have two different relationships confused.

FWB: You are friends who enjoy being intimate on occasion. No strings. No future. Like, not love.

Booty Call: You meet up just for sex and nothing else. No talking. No strings. No emotions.

You have a booty call.

He may not be available every time you get the urge. He may be getting the idea that all he is to you is an object.

Talk to him and find out if he is having second thoughts.

@cat1864 I think u may be right and it sucks

Friends with benefits do not hint, boy and girl friends hit and play games.

He and you sit down and look at your day timers and plan days ahead to have meetings and the such.

Well in college, sometimes you have several girls. So when you call maybe he is with someone else, and since the relationships are meaningless. Why leave one for the other one? When you have choices, you go for the one most comfortable, maybe he has someone that lives closer, that would make me not want to drive just to bust one out. Yeah I come over if you invite me, but only if I have the time to spend time with you.

Maybe he can't change his plans as easily, or quickly as you can. Even dumb shy guys can be on the make with many females so sometimes you share.

Use protection.

OK so everyone reading this probably thinks I am a nut... but good god I think I may have feelings for him. Basically we haven't talked because I wanted him to be the first to start something. A week ago I asked him if he wanted to come home with me over text. He said yes. We were at the same bar and we saw each other. He did not say a word to me. So I danced with other guys and him with other girls and he never came up to me or say anything. So I went home with another guy. I miss him but I do not want to look desperate or look like a like him... even thought I might. What do I do?? I am so sad.

If you care about him then tell him. If you don't tell him then you have to accept what you are. You're a booty call. You're just sex. As that you don't get to be jealous. He has no commitment to you, and you have none to him.

It doesn't sound like he wants more than a friend with benefits, but it can't hurt to ask. But stop hinting, and stop hoping that he'll figure it out on his own. Men aren't like women. You need to tell them what you want!

You need to tell them what you want!

Right! I already mentioned earlier in this thread that we men don't get hints! We need to be told outright! ;)