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paranga
Feb 23, 2012, 06:55 AM
I have been talking to this black guy for a month now and he always says its not going to work and breaks it up. I mean we're not dating, or anything, we're just kissing that's it. He says that he really likes me and can't g.et rid of me and thinks about me a lot, but why is he not giving it a chance? Is he playing around?

One day he said he didn't want to get hurt by a women... he doesn't want to put a title on us... and still he calls me and wants to talk to me. I don't understand?

For 2 weeks I didn't talk to him at all (we work together) and every time he would see me he would say hey or what's up, I would ignore. On valentines day he called me to wish me a happy valentines day I said thank you then he asked me if I was going to go out. I said I might by myself. He says he wouldn't pay for no damn women that she has to be special! Then I was like wow that hurt. He says your disgusted by me aren't you? I said yes, so we stopped talking.

A whole week passed. He would just say hey to me at work, I would just say hey. But then this week he called me saying he missed talking to me, and we did talk. I don't hold grudges. Well yesterday he called me at 5 pm. I was at the store near his job. He said he wanted me to give him a massage. I use to be a therapist. I said sure, I met him there gave him a massage. He says "you miss me didn't you". I didn't respond. Then he says I missed you, and he tried kissing me. I said no because were just friends, so he then asked me like 3 times, then I kissed him. Then he says he had a game at 7pm an hour away from here. He ask me if I wanted to go, I said yes, then he says remember its at 7pm and we have to be there before 7pm. He plays football. I said OK.

Well I went home changed and was ready. He calls me at 6:09 pm saying that he was already late, and traffic gets bad, and that he was sorry, but he said 7 pm. I felt bad! Is he playing with me? Is he a player? Someone please help me? I don't want to get hurt by him. Should I ignore him? Tell him to leave me alone? Move on? HELP!

SoftSummer
Feb 23, 2012, 11:37 AM
RUUUUUUUUUNNNNNNNN!! Actions speak louder than words!! If he wanted to be with you then he'd let you know. He's just playing you. Break all communication and let him go.

scipioafricanus
Feb 23, 2012, 11:40 PM
Very Simple. This guy is attracted to you but not enough to date you. You are a placeholder just like they teach in high school math. Normally when a guy does that to a girl, 9/10 there is a girl they are seeing is doing the same thing to him. He cannot allow himself to be alone, so he has you for the time-being.

He will take you on a roller-coster ride to feed his ego, it might seam like a great ride, but at the end of the day... it is not about you. Hope it Helps.

indya
Feb 23, 2012, 11:47 PM
If he's not ready to commit to anything at all, and stood you up too, its best to just ignore him.

talaniman
Feb 25, 2012, 07:02 PM
Is he playing with me? Is he a player? Someone please help me? I don't want to get hurt by him. Should I ignore him? Tell him to leave me alone? Move on?
All the above! Keep him out of your life.