ads13
Feb 22, 2012, 06:37 PM
My husband and I were married almost 5 months ago. We lived together before and our frequency for sex was maybe 2-3 times a week. He works full time and is finishing his degree so he is I'm sure very tired. But he has been doing this schedule for 5 years now since we started dating so it is not a new development. This problem began a bit before the wedding and I thought it might have been stress with the wedding. Planning long distance and working for every extra penny. The problem has only gotten worse. Since we got married we have almost stopped having sex. Frequency being 1-2 times a month. He has stopped initiating and when we do have sex (with me starting things) he is ready to get it done with. I hate this reaction it makes me not want to start things either. I have not gained weight.. I have actually lost weight and been better about keeping the house and making him amazing meals. I have tried little hints like lingerie, sitting on the couch with him in my bra and panties or just naked. I have tried watching porn with him. I have tried costumes. All of which previously worked. I have tried talking to him about it genuinely not whining. His answer is just relax and let it happen. It doesn't. I have even started to spend more time with my friends not always being available at his demand. Nothing works. I have stopped and left it to him.. Nada. Fear of rejection for me makes me not want to try. He's my NEW husband this should not be happening. Right? He is head over heals in love with me as I am with him. He does special things for me all the time and is a great husband but why the lack of sex? Or interest in being intimate with me? I feel like he is my best friend rather than my husband.