So I was dating this girl and we were serious and then she left to live over seas for the summer... Before we ever started dating she already had this plan set up... So I was OK with it... However things changed and when she came back it was just not the same... We tried to work on it but she was just different... she is significant younger then (26 I am 34) I usually never date younger but she got me...

So we ended up breaking up in October... at Halloween we ended up hooking up for a brief moment but nothing changed I was still in love and she was not... So it definitely got worse before it got better... we ended up going about 4 months with out talking to each other... then in January we ended up at the same bar... there was a little stand off but before we knew it we were talking just like old times... she ended up staying at my place but we did not do anything... I offered her my bad and I slept on my couch... I normally sleep there anyway it is super comfy!

Anyway we continue to talk and to text and I am definitely going slow and taking it lightyly... it seems everything is going fine... so we see each other a couple times but I am making sure to not chase and I am not kissing her or anything... I know that she is going out with other guys on dates and that is it... she is very honest and up front with me and not promiscuous at all...

So we get to this weekend... she is on her way on a trip with one of her friends she calls me on the way up to her destination and we talk for about 45 minutes it was great just like old times... once again I am not chasing at all here... then she text me late at night it was the first drunk text I have gotten in a long time... once again it is light and I make sure not to push... the next day she calls me and this is where it gets weird... we start talking about her trip and it is great... then she drops the bomb on me that she wants to have a fecta date 3 or 4 guys at a time so she never has to pay for a meal... I don't get it... I never brought up relationships and I was happy the way it was going... we said we were going to start over and just go slow... and we were going to be friends... however it is confusing because she said she was confused about us on the way up to her trip... but I did not want to talk about it because there was no need... then she asked if I was dating anyone and I said no I really don't want to talk about this... then she said well if we are friends we should be able to talk about this... any ways I am sure this is getting confusing... but bottom line is... why would she even do that? I am guessing that I am getting played and that I should just walk a way...

I agree with her, you should be able to talk about anything, and not act shocked over a young girls prattering to shock you. Maybe she is way to young, and you expect too much to come of this. Or maybe you are just to serious. And she is having fun. Playing you though, I doubt it, because she owes you nothing.

You should be having fun with others like she is and I have no clue why you are not.