Here are the symptoms
Erratic behavior,wears sun-glasses all the time-even indoors,he seems to have aged decades,hair long and unkempt,teeth discolored,weightloss of fifty pounds or more in a few months,sometimes he seems paranoid,anger outbursts,cut himself off his family,new and strange friends and several affairs going on simultaniously.We are separated but I have tried to tell his friends and family that he needs professional help but they all buy into his story that it's all my fault.I forgot to mention that his hands sometimes shake so badly that he has problems doing simple things.
You tell me...

Definitely cause for concern. If he is, he isn't getting it for free... have you noticed any changes financially? Money missing or anything like that? Have you looked through the house thoroughly for any paraphernalia?

He never has money although he has a steady job.I should also mention that several people have told me about the drastic change in his personality to erratic and unpredictable.

I read up on meth addiction and it fits him to the T.All the symptoms match!It is pityfull to watch,really...

It takes a very rich person about year to be on the street. I don't know what kind of a job he has but it won't be long until he is on the street. I know it is hard to watch him decline, but it sounds like you can do nothing about it.
This is hard to say but you need to get away and take whatever is left to take. You can not help him but you can go down with him.

I agree but since I called the police when he became violent he has moved out.I asked his friends to get him professional help but they don't see the problem.He is moving to another city altogether.I am however still struggling with the years of abuse that I could not explain.

I know it is hard, but having him leave your town will make it much easier on you. Sometimes we need to say.. there is nothing I can do. I think that is a very brave and hard thing to do
Perhaps with him gone and you know it was drugs.. . now maybe you can begin to heal. Remember you are not alone. There are so many. Why don't you try to find a good support group?

I am looking for one in my area but a lady from the police called me who follows up on abuse reports and she was very helpful.I have friends,thoug,who are helping me.

Here are the symptoms
erratic behavior,wears sun-glasses all the time-even indoors,he seems to have aged decades,hair long and unkempt,teeth discolored,weightloss of fifty pounds or more in a few months,sometimes he seems paranoid,anger outbursts,cut himself off his family,new and strange friends and several affairs going on simultaniously.We are separated but I have tried to tell his friends and family that he needs professional help but they all buy into his story that it's all my fault.I forgot to mention that his hands sometimes shake so badly that he has problems doing simple things.
You tell me...
My ex husband is a meth addict and that is why we are divorced. You are describing him perfectly. The sad thing is he won't change until he is ready to change. He will lose everything he has if he doesn't realize he needs help. The only thing you can do is stay strong in your convictions that he has a problem. If you have children with him then you need to talk to an attorney about him not getting visitation. Be very careful when he is angry this is usually when they are coming down and he could become violent.

My opinion I think he is myself because one of my family members used to do the same thing and found out and wore his sunglasses inside and also when it was really dark. And there was a lot of anger problems to.

He is on his way to New Mexico and seems more together but I will see how it goes.I did tell him about my suspicions which he of course denied.Yes,I will be better off.I feel better already!Even physically!I had no idea how that was affecting me..

Sorry to hear that seems like he needs a lot of help there are support groups and detox places where he can get help

Yes,there are but he is running away to another city.His brother confirmed my suspicions.I talked to him yesterday.

Beanster,

Let me start by saying I am so sorry you are in such a terrible position. I know it must be hard for you.

Yesterday I did my alcohol and drug rotation at school. We spent the entire clinical day in a D&A reha center in Missouri in the men's dorm. Many of those men were addicted to Meth and described their actions prior to rehab almost identical to what you are saying of your husband.

I read that your suspicions were confirmed, however it may benefit you to find some support groups in your area for YOU. There are groups such as Al-Anon and Narc-Anon that support the family rather than the addict.

I understand that he is leaving and moving away, however these groups me still be beneficial to you in helping you cope with all aspects of your husband's addiction no matter if he is in your house or on the streets.

Addiction is lifelong, although he may quit the drugs he will always be an addict and it would be in your best interests to join a support group to help you understand that you are not alone.

***** HUGE THUNDEROUS APPLAUSE FOR BEANSTER ******

You recognized the symptoms, looked for help, and got yourself out of a bad situation. Do you know how many people are too weak-willed or scared to do the same?

Congratulations. I know, unfortunately, it isn't over... there will be more fallout I'm sure. But take a while to be proud of yourself for handling things the way you did.

Best wishes, beanster!

I will do to the court and ask for a total financial separation as he is not able to take care of money and I don't want that on my credit records.I am aware of addiction.I know that some people just are addiction prone and he is.He wrote about psychological problems twenty years ago in his journal which he left behind so it's not a new thing.

Beanster.. it sounds as if you are doing all the right things, but be prepared for his come back. When he hits bottom he will be back. Now is the time for you to strengthen yourself for this. Your life is separate from his now and you know you can not help him.
Stay strong but be prepared.

Here are the symptoms
erratic behavior,wears sun-glasses all the time-even indoors,he seems to have aged decades,hair long and unkempt,teeth discolored,weightloss of fifty pounds or more in a few months,sometimes he seems paranoid,anger outbursts,cut himself off his family,new and strange friends and several affairs going on simultaniously.We are separated but I have tried to tell his friends and family that he needs professional help but they all buy into his story that it's all my fault.I forgot to mention that his hands sometimes shake so badly that he has problems doing simple things.
You tell me...
yup,
if money is missing randomaly, cuts himself outa the family

I did meth and it mad me happy but everyone else's high is different.

it should most def be a concern

My ex husband is a meth addict and Melena is right, he will only change when he is ready to change! The best thing for you to do is worry about helping yourself and let his family worry with him. There is nothing you can do for him right now. If he needs you, he will come to you, but be very careful!

Good luck and God loves you!

You should try to become friendly with him, tell him you started doing it or something and see what he says. Unless that wouldn't be believable because when it comes to meth heads they always try to find a way out always making excuses and its really hard to give them help. REally hard...

I have been living with excuses and gaslighting for the last years,I am reading and educating myself about abuse and it is a real eye-opener.I used to take on all his stuff and now I can heal.Him moving to another state was a blessing.He sometimes calls me when he is high or drunk or whatever and I just keep it short.he will be here in two weeks for my immigration stuff and hopefully he will not mess up and that would be another step into indipendance.But so far I am doing good.

Yeah.. I know a lot of people that are on that... all of the symptoms are correct... have you noticed money or like valuable items missing from your house? Because sometimes they trade that stuff for drugs. Also sometimes people give it to them and tell them just make sure you pay me back so hopefully he isn't messed up with the wrong people... the drug isn't cheap but it doesn't take much to get high but in my opinion yeah I would say that is what it is because it normally makes you really paranoid after you stay up for a couple of days and it does discolor your teeth if you smoke it -- I know somebody who is the same way you are explaining your husband-the sad thing is as long as he is high he isn't going to listen to anything anybody says he has his mind on getting high again so the best thing would be to talk to him when he is sober and let him he has to pick the drugs or his family... or either since he is telling you that he isn't doing it ask him to take a drug test in front of you to prove it.. if he gets offensive and won't do it then you know he is... but they have them at walmart just make sure you get the one that includes methaphedimine... hope I was some help if you need anything else let me know... also please rate this answer! Good luck!

I am not going to talk to him about it.He denies it and I want him out of my life.He is messing with several women and now has a hunting license and guns.As long as he stays 800 miles away with it let them deal with granting an alcoholic,possible meth addict and abuser with a volatile temper a hunting license and the ability to obtain guns.I don't want to be anywhere near him.

From personal experience with a boyfriend I once had>? Rock aka crack cocaine. Easier and cheaper to get then meth. Yeah I would stand by it beibg crack 100 percent. And what do you mean by his family accusing YOU>?

Beanster that's my x to a tee. He got so mad at his (at the time) wife he took his RIFLE for HUNTING and pulled the lever back and told her if she didn't get her azz home he was going to blow her brains out. Said he did it to scare her. All it did was get HIM 1 1/2 years. I wanted this guy since I was 15 spent 8 yrs with him and left him 3 months ago. Had I known THEN what I do NOW that would have changed things. Just the other day he told a neighborhood man "you better not be with my girl or I will kill you" MY GIRL meaning ME see what the drugs did>? He still thinks I am his even though I haven't talked to him since January or early February.

Jaxie,you have it the wrong way around:He abuses drugs because he is an abuser.If he would get off the drugs,he might be less abusive but then again,he might be more.Drugs don't make somebody abusive but it makes them less predictable.You H just sounds like a genuine jerk and you need to get as far away from him as you can.

Lol yes he is a jerk and beanster your right that fact is he is a jack plain and simple good insight there beanster anyway 3 months free of him now you hoo 1