dotman
Feb 21, 2012, 01:02 AM
I have recently resigned from my job for the reason that I have fallen in love with my straight guy manager. But when our boss ask me why am leaving, I declined to tell him but he insisted so I told him it was because of my manager's complacancy at work and that I can't work with this manager anymore.
But that wasn't the real reason why am leaving. It seems to me that quitting my job was the only viable solution because I wanted to stop what I am feeling for my manager. They also don't know that I am gay. Been finding fault of my manager so I would hate him instead of falling in love deeper seems not working because I find it hurts me do those and feel guilty about it and also it's so unfair for him.
I gave a two weeks noticed and on my last three days, I sensed that they are hoping that I have changed my mind and would stay. I noticed a lot of changes too regarding management at my work meaning the reason that I told our boss for my resignation were being addressed. I honestly considering to stay but still can't for am afraid that I might not be able to control myself about my feelings for my manager if I stay.
So after thinking for so many times, on my supposed to be eve of my last day at work, I decided to talk to my manager. I ask him if he wanted me to stay despite the reasons of me leaving is because of him (his incompetence). And he said he wanted me to stay because am a valuable staff for the business. And I ask him if he would still want me to stay if I had a deeper reason that involves him, and I was surprised because he was convincing me to tell him what it was.
I was having second thoughts of telling, I don't know how he would react. But I manage to tell him calmly that I have fallen in love with him. He didn't react violently, says don't know what to say and that he is flattered and most importantly, he still wanted me to stay. Can't believed what I just heard from him for am not expecting that this is how he will take it. Was so relieved. So he ask me if I will stay, and I didn't hesitate to say yes not thinking if it was the right decision.
So we end the meeting clear that I would be staying, but I I gave him the chance to think over it and let me know if he realized that he would not be comfortable working with me before I revoke my resignation from our boss.
Do you think I made the right decision to stay? My supposed last day was over and I had revoked my resignation, it was just like a regular day working with my manager, as if nothing had happened. He even posted my week's schedule. Does this mean he really wanted me to stay or is he just playing it out with me?
But that wasn't the real reason why am leaving. It seems to me that quitting my job was the only viable solution because I wanted to stop what I am feeling for my manager. They also don't know that I am gay. Been finding fault of my manager so I would hate him instead of falling in love deeper seems not working because I find it hurts me do those and feel guilty about it and also it's so unfair for him.
I gave a two weeks noticed and on my last three days, I sensed that they are hoping that I have changed my mind and would stay. I noticed a lot of changes too regarding management at my work meaning the reason that I told our boss for my resignation were being addressed. I honestly considering to stay but still can't for am afraid that I might not be able to control myself about my feelings for my manager if I stay.
So after thinking for so many times, on my supposed to be eve of my last day at work, I decided to talk to my manager. I ask him if he wanted me to stay despite the reasons of me leaving is because of him (his incompetence). And he said he wanted me to stay because am a valuable staff for the business. And I ask him if he would still want me to stay if I had a deeper reason that involves him, and I was surprised because he was convincing me to tell him what it was.
I was having second thoughts of telling, I don't know how he would react. But I manage to tell him calmly that I have fallen in love with him. He didn't react violently, says don't know what to say and that he is flattered and most importantly, he still wanted me to stay. Can't believed what I just heard from him for am not expecting that this is how he will take it. Was so relieved. So he ask me if I will stay, and I didn't hesitate to say yes not thinking if it was the right decision.
So we end the meeting clear that I would be staying, but I I gave him the chance to think over it and let me know if he realized that he would not be comfortable working with me before I revoke my resignation from our boss.
Do you think I made the right decision to stay? My supposed last day was over and I had revoked my resignation, it was just like a regular day working with my manager, as if nothing had happened. He even posted my week's schedule. Does this mean he really wanted me to stay or is he just playing it out with me?