Hello. I'm 25 year old she is 35. We met each other with help of ours common friend. She is divorced, and she has daughter. We know each other like 1 month. But we talked to each other 1 time for 3-4 days. And this Saturday, I went with her to a club which it was our second meet with her. She got drunken fast. I take her to my house and called taxi but she slept, and I woke her up, we kissed, then she slept again. I opened her cloths, but I felt its not nice, I didn't touch her. When she wake up she got angry because she saw her cloths open, but she didn't mind much when I apologized she said its OK don't make drama you are a man its normal. Then we kissed and waited for taxi to come. I let her to go home. Then gave a call whether she got home safe or not. She answered very sweet and said thanks to me for lovely night.

Tomorrow when I woke up, I texted her to see how she is. She answered so dry. **I'm OK thanks ** but before she was greeting asking me how I am. Anyway I let 5 hours then texted her that what is wrong she didn't answer. And plus I made a comment to her picture in the Facebook she liked everyone's comment except mine. Then I send her a message by mistaken with her name was on it. But it was different language. Turkish it was to my Turkish friend.

After that night I checked my Facebook I saw that she limited my vision to her profile. But she didn't deleted me nor blocked me. I called her she didn't answer I send a message. Now guys what do you think? Does she wants to play about? Or she don't want me?

I think you shouldn't contact her again. You have tried several times, she knows that you are wanting to talk to her, so now let her make that decision. Perhaps she is embarrassed about her behavior when you went out and afterwards. Of course it would have been better if you had not opened her clothes, or at least would have closed them back. You took advantage of the situation and I don't blame her if she is upset. You hardly know each other. It looks like she is not wanting to move too fast and is limiting contact.

Don't get caught up in playing games with her. Leave her alone, go out with your friends, and see if she contacts you at some point.

This much drama and you have gone out with her twice? My advise would be to drop it. If she wants to hear from you again she will text. Stop contacting her in anyway and continue living your life.

Is there any help?

DoulaLc

Your answer is the one what I think. I was a bit drunk as well so you know when you drunk your body more sexual. I texted her to let her know that I ll respect her decision and is she wants cut contact she could tell me this. I won't disturb her anymore. Do you think I should invite her out for lunch weekend? Because this is my mistake and I want to explain

And don't u think if she wanted cut contact totally she would delete me from friendship. And Doula LC after I opened her cloth and she got abgry she calmed down and said she wnt to keep me in her life. She said that I give her attention and she likes this and she needs attention. Can't we count this as good sign ?

No, you can't count it as a good sign because she had been drinking. When she sobered up, maybe she thought about it a little more and decided against the whole thing.

Also, you say you won't disturb her anymore but then you ask if you should invite her to lunch. If she doesn't want to talk to you, she doesn't want to talk to you.

I think for the amount of time you've invested in this, you're much better off forgetting about the whole thing and moving on. You went out with her 2 times and look at the mess already? Do you think it's going to get better? Not likely.

odinn7

Thanks for your response. But everyone can do mistakes even there is big mistakes in the relationship and can be corrected by time. And I don't see so much mess there its normal I wanted to have sex she was in my bed. And the reason inviting her is I don't know what's is problem at all. And in my last text I said her that if she want to cut contact just all she need just tell me. I don't want to drag into this love games. But she didn't answer. Don't u think if she really don't want just she can text me that ** sorry but there is nothing left or bla bla ** ad wll move on without saying any word??

I would say that the fact that she isn't responding at all is her message that she doesn't want contact anymore. Take it as such and let it go.

I agree... don't contact her anymore. You have already told her to contact you, so now it is up to her. If she is interested, or becomes interested later at some point, she knows how to get in touch with you.

DoulaLC

Thanks. No invite for lunch this weekend?

I wouldn't push it. If you feel that she has backed off, then she would likely become annoyed if you keep after her.

If she is interested, she will eventually contact you. If she isn't interested, you won't hear from her... and if she is playing games, better for you not to get involved in something like that anyway. Who needs the drama?

Find a nice girl who wants to spend time with you.

Thanks so much :) then I won't

DoulaLC

But you know when I think about her I think I don't give up so early. I'm sure she don't know me well enough. If your advice is NC rule it is OK. But I want to get her after sometime again. I want her in mylife. What would you advise for that?

what would u advise for that?

Honestly... give it up man. Everyone here has said give it up and you say 'ok, but... '

Just give it up and walk away.

You've known her a month and met with her twice. The second meeting didn't end so well. She doesn't answer or return your calls, or attempts to contact her. By your own admission, you don't know each other so well, but you already know that you want her in your life??

If you can't let it go, how about you give it one month. Don't contact her. No phone calls, no Facebook messages, no text, nothing.

If she contacts you, fine, go out again. If she doesn't, then you know she is not interested.

Doula LC

Thanks. Yeah my decision a bit stupid. I don't know her well I think I want her because she is hot and pretty. But yeah you are right I agree, I should give her time. Because I asked her in the message to make up her mind and give me one proper answer. So I gave her all she need, if she wants to contact she know what she need to do. Right?

GUYS help please

She called me today and she was angry and asked to leave her alone otherwise she is gone report to police about me. What the **** does that mean? Do u think she has problems? Misbehaving?

Asilotras... just leave her alone now. Do not return her calls, or answer any text, or anything else. Delete her from your Facebook. You went out a couple of times, it didn't work out, that's the end of it.

Honestly, I think you are much better off that this has ended. Now spend time with your friends and family, and sooner or later you will meet a nice girl, who will probably be more mature and stable than this 35 year old appears to be.

Consider yourself lucky, forget about her, and move on.

Doula LC

Thank u. Yeah I already moved on. No way to back to her. As you said who needs drama?:) u know but I want figure out something in order not to make mistakes in future. Yeah I know my mistake was insisting too much. She got scraed. But in my last text I asked her if she don't want all shd need just send me one sentence, I won't call or text anymore. I ll respect. She didn't but what she did today. Police bla bla. It is like she told me ten times but I still insisting. Don't u think she is mis behaving? And she is not mature enough ?

You probably got to the point of being annoying to her. The simple fact that she wasn't answering you at all was plenty of indication that she was done with you. Just leave her alone now and forget about her.

Odinn 7

Thanks. Yeah I ll. But I need to be ready for defense. As doula LC mentioned do you think she ll call me back when ll calm down and feel alone?

I think she is done talking to you for good. I also worry for you that you can't seem to get over this after only a month and 2 dates, one of which turned out fairly poorly. You seem to understand what we're saying yet at the same time, you keep asking if it will be OK to talk to her at some point in the future. Just completely forget about her and find someone else. Don't worry about if it will be OK to talk to her when she calms down. Don't worry about if she might call you some time. Save yourself and give it up.

OK Thanks very much . It is really helpful :)

I think your problem is you need a direct reject, or explanation because you cannot just take a hint. You also believe that a few dates is an indication that something serious is developing, its obvious she doesn't think so.

Don't feel bad, many are not good at the subtle hints and signs that others give us, and just keep pushing until they tell us bluntly what they mean. Don't in this case keep pushing and looking for something that's not happening, and take the hint, she has nicely rejected you at this time, and since you have no reason to know what it is exactly, DROP IT, and don't get carried away by curiosity, or lack of understanding of what's going on with her.

From what you wrote, you think she is obligated, or committed to you in some way, or owes you something. She doesn't, so you leave her alone, and carry on with what you were doing. Whether you think things can be fixed or not means NOTHING, because she doesn't.

So leave her alone, and chalk this up to experience. These things happen to us all, more times than we admit. No big deal, its was good while it lasted, and you had fun for a month or two.

Move on.

TALANIMAN

Thanks for your response. Yea I know what's my problem and I know also that I did mistake. But the problem is she limited me from her pictures statuses. But she didn't deleted me from her Facebook. I really like her. I know that not much time together but She was friendly and nice. So Can we take this things as good sign and do you think there is any possibility to get together again or cab I try to contact after while time ?

I think you are being annoying and inappropriate. Sure enough she got drunk, but you opened her clothes while she was sleeping, you're lucky she didn't go off on you.
Leave her alone. What you have been doing is close to stalking.
You don't seem to be able to get the hint. She wants no part of you, you creep-ed her out by invading her space when you opened her clothes while she slept, then you continue to bother her and it appears you've still not given up.
The lady does not want you. Leave her alone and learn to respect a woman's space.

HOMEGIRL

Thanks. But we kissed before I didn't opened and I was drunk a bit as well. But I could control myswlf. I could do much but I didn't. Yea I wasnot nice. And I still can not forgive myself I need some advice how to get her respect back. I know it is easy to go and give up. But I want the difficult one to win her back and do not make this mistakes again. Can you help me on this things? Don't u think I can try to contact her after some time like month?

If you have Facebook, then you can communicate that way. But don't expect much, push to hard, or be obsessive. Have the good sense to know when to let go, or walk away.

TALANIMAN

Please can you make abit explanation how to approach. What should do in Facebook. All I can do is just to send her message and post something to her wall. Because I can not see her pictures nor statuses.and I also afraid to be annoyed and make her to report to police as she said:(( what do you think?

I don't think you need to contact her at all. She has already threatened to call the police on you. I don't think you will get her back and she certainly won't respect you if you continue to bug her. You sound a bit obsessed and that is not cool.
Learn from this experience. And a word of advice, just because a woman kisses you, it does not mean she wants to have sex with you, and being drunk is not an excuse for opening a woman's clothes while she is sleeping.
Leave the woman alone .

GUYS help please

She called me today and she was angry and asked to leave her alone otherwise she is gone report to police about me. what the **** does that mean? Do u think she has problems? Misbehaving?

Game over, do as she says end of subject. That's what happens and will happen to you when you push to hard, and can't take a hint, you end up in jail so don't be stupid.

Now go find someone that WANTS your attention.SHE DOES NOT!!

Sorry I missed that posting.

Asilotras...

Stop!

Listen to what she told you. If you contact her, and continue to bother her, she will call the police. Do not contact her anymore. That includes posting on her Facebook wall or sending her a message. That she told you she would call the police if you do, should be enough of a message to you to stop and to leave her alone.

Stop trying to think of ways to get her to want to see you or stay in contact with you. Not even in the future. From what she said, it isn't likely that she will be interested at anytime.

Face that, accept it, and focus on getting to know other people. Sooner or later you will meet someone else who is compatible with you and wants to get to know you better.

Quite frankly, from your persistence in this, and inability to understand a now very clear message from her, I don't blame her for being annoyed.

Sorry Guys

I understand all know. Sorry that bothered u. Thanks very much :)

You didn't bother anyone, but you were having great difficulty seeing what was right in front of you. Sometimes others, who have no emotions involved, are better able to see the picture more clearly.

It is never easy when someone you like, and would like to have a relationship with, does not have the same feelings for you, but it happens to everyone.

You will be fine. Spend time with your friends, and get back out there. You will meet someone that will be as interested in spending time with you as you are with them.

Good luck!

And let me add this...

Not only do you need to stop trying to come up with ways to contact her and get her respect back (as it's not going to happen and now it seems to be on the verge of stalking), but you should delete her from your Facebook. Deleting her from FB will help you break away and stop thinking about her. I have a friend who had a break up but kept stalking her ex with FB... she kept using it to see constantly what he was doing. Months and months of this until I finally asked her what she was doing to herself. She didn't get that by keeping him on FB and constantly watching what he was doing, she was just making things more difficult for herself. Once she deleted him, it became easier for her to move on.

You should do it too... actually, no, you NEED to do it.