Here's my story. My sister's boyfriend was my best friend in kindergarten all the way through school and still now. So about 15 years. They actually met through me. And recently I've developed a STRONG sexual attraction. And I'm almost positive he feels the same way, but we could never talk about it. Just the comments he makes and the way he looks at me. And it seems to be getting worse and worse. The attraction is getting do strong. I tell myself I would never do anything like that, but sometimes I question myself. I don't know what to do? And it's not like I can just stop seeing them. I mean, he's my best friend and she's my sister and we're very close. So I imagine people reading this are judging me like hell. But until you've been in my situation, don't judge me. Cause it's harder than you would think.
Like whenever we're alone together I just want him to touch me. But I know it's SOOOO wrong, and I would feel horrible and wouldn't be able to live with myself. But it's so hard. Even when we're in the car and he's driving he always puts his seat all the way back and I sit behind him and he leans all the way back, to the seat and I put my hand on his seat under his back. Like... it's almost routine for us... I know weird. But just being able to touch him that much is good. And harmless. Also, whenever we're listening to music in the car we loook at each other in the mirror and sing to one another. I just needed to get this out. If you have any questions or comment PLEASE comment. Also, I would REALLY like to hear of someone that has kind of been through the same thing. That way I know I'm not alone. :P It SUCKS.

Hi nicxxole,

You realise that you are playing fire, right? It is only a matter of time before this blows up and people get hurt. Your first loyalty is to your sister, so you back off. It won't be easy of course, you can't just turn feelings off, but you can control what you do with them and you can take steps to prevent them from getting carried away.

Avoid being alone with him... if you have to, walk out of the room. Is there a reason you are in the car together? If he has to drive you somewhere, sit behind the passenger seat. Stop touching his seat, stop singing to him in the mirror.

This is not much different then someone flirting with a married man and letting it go too far, if even in their own mind. This is actually worse because your sister is the one who he is involved with.

Think about how she would feel if she noticed what was going on. How would you possibly be able to explain yourselves?

Consider also that this is a guy who your sister trusts and believes to be loyal to her. That he would behave in such a way with you, his girlfriend's sister, doesn't say much for his integrity does it? How would you ever trust him if you did end up with him?

If he mentions the change in your behavior, simply tell him that you love your sister and she trusts both of you, and that you would never do anything to break that trust. Then leave it at that.

Stop it now before you regret your actions. You won't be able to take it back.

You need to back off, stop seeing him for a while. He is wayyy off limits to you. CONTROL yourself. Sexual attraction is normal, and wanting something forbidden is even more normal, this is where you need to exercise the most discipline.

Stop it. Is temporary pleasure really worth the long-term and possibly permanent strain and distrust that your sis will have for you WHEN she finds out? Remember that's your sister, she's always going to be around you no matter what (Christmas, Thanksgiving, etc.), she's not "just" a friend that you can ignore and possibly never see again.

It's normal to be attracted to whoever, we can't control who we find sexually attractive, but we don't have to give in those feelings and desires at all. I've found myself attracted to some of my really close friends gf's before, but you have to have self control and leave that s*** alone.