tried
Feb 20, 2012, 03:23 PM
I am not a perfect wife, I get frustrated with my husband because he shuts me out and we can never get past a situation without him punishing me first and sometimes it feels like it goes on so long I feel like I hate him. I can't talk to him and I truly love him, he shuts me out, has my cell phone line suspended or hides behind his parents.
He says when he is no longer upset, I just don't know how much he loves me, how much I make him angry. We have been through so much its ridiculous to keep on like this, I do not know why I keep trying feeling like a fool every time he wants to be punishing. I feel like I'm in prison when he's mad and I continue to try to talk to him and he continues to make me feel like a nobody just because he is angry.
He will tell me to fix everything, he won't file for divorce and often tells me he loves me, we have been living apart for 6 months and its because his parents got involved in a disagreement and evicted me from our home. The home was in their name. He let that happen and I completely fell apart in losing just the friendship part of my husband, I felt betrayed and like I don't even know him.
I hate loving him but I don't know how to stop blaming myself or thinking this is going to get better if I stick it out. I am a very pretty loving and intelligent person, I have a lot of opportunities just to move on but I can't... and I think he's taking advantage of knowing it hurts me too much to leave him entirely.
He lives with his parents along with his teenage daughters, his mother is always hanging up on me, lying and just adding to everything. He says he tells her to back off but if he was telling her to I think she would stop herself from answering the phone and screaming into it, if he's not there she still does it instead of just let the phone ring knowing I will get the clue he's not home.
I care about him and don't treat him like this but he does nothing to stop behaving like a child or treating me like a child when he's upset. I think I need to pray and be more involved in other things, I just feel paralyzed but I don't know why.
Has anybody felt that they know they deserve better and get stuck dealing with this type of situation?
He says when he is no longer upset, I just don't know how much he loves me, how much I make him angry. We have been through so much its ridiculous to keep on like this, I do not know why I keep trying feeling like a fool every time he wants to be punishing. I feel like I'm in prison when he's mad and I continue to try to talk to him and he continues to make me feel like a nobody just because he is angry.
He will tell me to fix everything, he won't file for divorce and often tells me he loves me, we have been living apart for 6 months and its because his parents got involved in a disagreement and evicted me from our home. The home was in their name. He let that happen and I completely fell apart in losing just the friendship part of my husband, I felt betrayed and like I don't even know him.
I hate loving him but I don't know how to stop blaming myself or thinking this is going to get better if I stick it out. I am a very pretty loving and intelligent person, I have a lot of opportunities just to move on but I can't... and I think he's taking advantage of knowing it hurts me too much to leave him entirely.
He lives with his parents along with his teenage daughters, his mother is always hanging up on me, lying and just adding to everything. He says he tells her to back off but if he was telling her to I think she would stop herself from answering the phone and screaming into it, if he's not there she still does it instead of just let the phone ring knowing I will get the clue he's not home.
I care about him and don't treat him like this but he does nothing to stop behaving like a child or treating me like a child when he's upset. I think I need to pray and be more involved in other things, I just feel paralyzed but I don't know why.
Has anybody felt that they know they deserve better and get stuck dealing with this type of situation?