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superstar18
Feb 17, 2012, 03:19 PM
So I'm currently volunteering at my local zoo and it's to see if we a capable to be a zoo keeper or something like that. I joined it last year and now I don't really want to be in it, but my mom wants me to be in it and I just don't like it. Both my parents complain taking me their because its like 45 minutes away and I don't know why my mom wants me to be in there if she doesn't like taking me. I have to take this test for it to see if I can work at a zoo, but I'm changing my interests now. I don't know how to tell my mom that I don't want to be in it anymore. She wants me to study for this test and I haven't yet and it's on Sunday.

Eileen G
Feb 17, 2012, 05:06 PM
Just tell her. Show her this question if you like.

I imagine she is doing it because she thinks this is what you want and she's trying to support you.

cdad
Feb 17, 2012, 05:17 PM
Your parents are doing it to show support of your decisions. It is part of growing up. When you're an adult there are many things you may not want to do but you do them because it is the right thing to do. Another thing is that in lifes journey you can't afford to be flippant. Once you make a commitment then you should see it through.

The real fact is that since you have tried what you were seeking it wasn't what it was cracked up to be. Parents understand that. Just please try to understand that if you give up easily on everything you try then your setting yourself up for failure. That is a parents worst nightmare. So now is the time to show responsibility and talk with your parents and express your concerns. Just try to remember that in your next venture quiting won't be so easy as you will be reminded of this time.

Good Luck.

superstar18
Feb 17, 2012, 08:47 PM
Yeah I understand, it's just not the right path for me anymore, but I got it figured out. Thanks!

aberg0520
Feb 18, 2012, 10:48 PM
Liberation. I quit piano after I stopped getting better despite my first place trophies. Yeah she was disappointed but hey, at least I'm doing something else: indoor drumline! Yeah, teenage liberation... Has its highs and lows

dontknownuthin
Feb 28, 2012, 08:04 PM
It would be helpful for us, and for you, to know why your mom wants you to stick with this. I have a teenage son and I don't mind if he changes his interests, but if he makes a commitment, whether he's still interested or not, I expect him to fulfill the commitment. So, for example, if you volunteered for a set period, if I were your parent, I'd want you to honor that and finish the job then, if you aren't interested I'd be fine with you being gracious about having served in that capacity, thank the zoo for the opportunity, perhaps ask if you might ask them for a letter of recommendation.

I also expect my son to use his time productively. If he's not in a school sport or activity during a particular period, I expect him to either be volunteering or working part-time. Your mom may feel that if you quit this, you won't be doing enough with your free time.

Ask her why it's important to her that you do this, then satisfy those reasons - I doubt she's dying for you to be a zoo keeper - more likely her objectives are that you are productive, learning some skills, gaining some volunteer credentials for college applications, honoring a commitment you made and things like that.

Good luck to you!