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prakashjijha91
Feb 17, 2012, 03:04 AM
Hello,

3 months ago, I met one girl. When first time I met her, she was good, open minded with me. 2-3 times I met her she was good, friendly always smiling, but little bit of shy with me. She was aware that I like her, as her friend already told her that. After 2 weeks, when I met her she suddenly told me that she is not having interest in relationship, and she was very emotional at that time. She started crying also I didn't ask her what happened, because I was aware of that she broke-up with one guy one year ago.

Now she is not talking much, and last time she literally ignored me. She is not ready to say what exactly problem is. Are there still hopes exists? Please tell me.

Silver Lining
Feb 17, 2012, 04:01 AM
Hi Prakash, South India by any chance?

U mentioned that she broke up with a guy a year bac. She must be emotionally traumatised. Also, therez a very high chance that her parents might be strict, might be looking for a groom for her and she might be feeling bad that she has feelings for you which she cannot express. If she does, she ends eup hurting either u, or her parents or herself.

Talk to her directly, in private. Ask her to open up. Be her friend. Give her some time to open up. Do not force her. Ask her politely if she is in any kind of dilemma and if you can help.
If you really like this girl, make sure she is not hurt and promise her you will o anything to make her happy. Keep that promise, even if it means hurting yourself.

I am a south indian gal and I know the kind of emotional stress that we go through. Hence the suggestion. Keep me updated.

Inkzlette
Mar 13, 2012, 10:24 AM
Well y don't u sit down with her and hear what she's got to say first and then when she's done telling u what's bothering her then u tell her everything will be okay and tell her that you will always be there for her and then you tell her how u feel and she needs to listen to what you have to say and then when she's ready she will tell u that she wants more then just friends just give her some time

mmresd
Mar 14, 2012, 02:15 PM
Communicate with her... only she knows how she feels about this situation. Don't be pushy, act indifferent, but courteous. See what she wants. If she says she is not ready for a relationship, I wouldn't wait... I would move on.

talaniman
Mar 14, 2012, 05:31 PM
Leave her alone if you can't just be friends.

Silver Lining
Mar 15, 2012, 12:13 AM
Its almost a month n prakashijiha91 has not responded,,