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cnhm2012
Feb 16, 2012, 11:42 AM
I am currently prenant, 4 days shy of my due date. I do not want the father involved because of how things ended and also he has 3 children from 2 other women whom he does not pay his child support on and he does not see. When his daughter visited us, I was the one to take care of her. He no longer has my phone number and I don't plain on telling him when my daughters born. He has texted my mom to try to get a hold of me but I really just want to wash my hands clean of him, he did nothing to help me prepare for the baby and he cannot hold a job. I don't plain on filing for child support either. Can he fikle for custody somehow if he doesn't have her ss#, my ss# or anything like that?

jenniepepsi
Feb 16, 2012, 12:23 PM
You can choose not to list a father on the birth certificate. And you can choose not to file for Child support.

However, he can file to get rights to the child, get a paternity test, and fight for his rights, which would include child support.

If you are on any form of assistance through the government, you will be required to provide his information, and you will be required to file for child support.

But no, unless he chooses not to have anything to do with his child, you cannot keep him away from her.

Fr_Chuck
Feb 16, 2012, 12:45 PM
You decided to sleep with him knowing he was a bad father, so your choice does not take away his rights. Also how you all broke up, does not make a difference on his rights.

He has full rights to file for paternity and to request joint custody or at least visits. Unless he is a threat to the child he will be given visits.

Next if you try to hide the child from him, it can hurt you in court. In fact if he proves he tried to contact and you hide the child, he can get more custody rights, more visits and more.

LearningAsIGo
Feb 16, 2012, 12:50 PM
I'm sorry you find yourself in this type of situation when the birth should be nothing but a celebration on both sides.
I believe the others are correct - there is not much you can do without the help of a lawyer. Simply "cutting ties" will leave you vulnerable if he decides to fight you for a custody arrangement. You might want to arrange a consultation with a family lawyer to discuss options. Many will advertise free initial consultations. Good luck to you