Ok so one year ago I met a girl that I felt like she was the most amazing girl I ever met. We connected instantly. We are both in the military and she has been married, divorced, and has a 3 and half year old daughter. I have not ever been in a serious relationship. I have never lived with anybody else. But we started hanging out in Feb. We hung out all the time and started staying with each other. By the end of April, we were living together. Her daughter came to live with us in April. So everyday we were all together and all fell in love with each other. I was so happy and thanking god everyday for giving me that chance to meet two of the most amazing people ever. We had our mistakes and fights as a couple, but honestly what couple doesn't especially when you are always together and I had a lot on my plate cause I was about to deploy. I was running around like crazy, but we did everything together. I would have died for her or her little girl. But I deployed in July and before I left we had a little fight, but made up and said we wanted to start over fresh. Well the first two months of my deployment were good. I was looking at engagement rings and we were making plans to go back to my home town. She was the only thing in life that mattered to me and I tried so hard to make her happy everyday and talk to her as much as I could. She thought she was pregnant which made me look at things so different and really made me look at a future with this girl. She told me things to make me fall even harder like "I have never loved anybody like you, only your family will love you like I do, you are the best thing that ever happened to me, I will always be there for you and my feelings will never change, You are my one and only." So I have a girl telling me this making me fall in more love with her and the only thing I want to do is make time go by faster to get back to her. About 2 months into my deployment she saw where my ex was trying to hit me up. I didn't do anything except let her know I was doing good on my deployment. But she said she didn't trust me and didn't believe in me. I thought if you love somebody you should always trust and believe in them especially if they are deployed and doing everything in their power to talk to you. Well she broke up with about 2 months into my deployment. We ended on good terms and she said she still wanted to be friends and that she wanted to be with me and only me. Well about two weeks went by and she started talking to me less, she started going out more and around two weeks after she broke up with me she went out with the guy she is talking to right now. Was it wrong for me to try to do little things to make her want me back. I thought the love was so strong and what we had was special. I was doing everything only to make things worse. She quit talking to me completely. She quit answering the phone, she quit emailing me, She deleted me off Facebook and even blocked me, she deleted me off skype on my birthday. And I called her just to tell her happy thanksgiving and she said she was talking to somebody that made her happier than I ever did. I was still trying cause I didn't want to give up on something I loved so much, but then she said she didn't want anything to do with me like 2 weeks before I came back home. I got back from my deployment a little early and realize she is already living with the guy she went out with 2 weeks after she broke up with me. The guy she is talking to now just got out of a divorce less than a year ago and has a kid of his own that he don't get to see. So how exactly do I get over it. It is hard cause the last time I saw her in person, I was wiping her tears away and she was saying she would be here when I got back and now that I am back she is living with somebody and won't even talk to me. So I just wanted some adivice if people actually read this whole thing cause I know its long as ****. Please give me some advice. I am not sleeping good and just want to know how to move on. How can I get over something I love so much and she was the only thing I thought about my whole deployment. I dream about her all the time and can't seem to get her off my mind. Please any advice would greatly be appreciated. I am desperate here on what to do?

Hi Brian;

It is hard after a breakup to be able to move on with your life, because, you feel you have lost that special someone. No contact with her is the first step to moving forward with your life. Keeping busy. Find things to do that you enjoy. Arrange to hang out with your friends. Things that you enjoy doing with them. Whether it's playing golf; playing cards or whatever you and your mates enjoy doing together when you hang out together. Do something's to look after yourself. Get regular physical activity and eat healthy. Eatting healthy and getting regular physical activity helps ward off depression. It also keeps you in shape.

It's clear that your ex has moved on with her life and it is wise for you to do the same for your own sanity. There is that special woman out there for you who will love and adore you. Someone who you can create special memories with that actually mean something for you and your future soul mate.

Each day will get easier. It's painful right now and is a loss for you. Your going through what I would like to say, "a grieving process". Things will get better and when they do, you will be so glad that you didn't look back!

Take care and good luck!

Keep yourself bussy. Also try just writing up a list of pros and ons about her. If you ever find that you have more pros then cons then don't step away from it until you find some more cons. Also why would you want someone with trust issues anyway? A. Person who really cares about you would just give up o easily or believe their first instinct. Move on and just forget.