Oulblueyes
Feb 10, 2012, 05:45 AM
I'm a 37 yr old man and my blackmailer has been bullying me and abusing me for almost 10 years now. I met my partner over 12 years ago and today we live together and share an amazing life. However I made the stupid horrendous mistake of getting drunk one night and sleeping with a much older guy. Even more stupidly I slept with him in the house I share with my partner.
Ever since then I've been bombarded with texts and phone calls saying I must sleep with him otherwise he will call over some night and tell my partner everything. The abuse and threats have gotten to the point were I am now not performing at work, having depressed feelings and constantly looking over my shoulders. When I do give in I have to drink at 8am in the morning so by the time I see my blackmailer I'm too drunk to have to care.
A lot of people will judge me and say "you made your bed so lie in it" and I understand that but I really can't cope anymore. I love my partner so much and we are so happy together that I can't bring myself to destroy his world and tell him what I've been doing with this horrible nasty blackmailer. Please help.
Ever since then I've been bombarded with texts and phone calls saying I must sleep with him otherwise he will call over some night and tell my partner everything. The abuse and threats have gotten to the point were I am now not performing at work, having depressed feelings and constantly looking over my shoulders. When I do give in I have to drink at 8am in the morning so by the time I see my blackmailer I'm too drunk to have to care.
A lot of people will judge me and say "you made your bed so lie in it" and I understand that but I really can't cope anymore. I love my partner so much and we are so happy together that I can't bring myself to destroy his world and tell him what I've been doing with this horrible nasty blackmailer. Please help.