I have been in love with somebody for almost ten years. We dated many years ago although at the time it didn't work out for a number of reasons including him moving abroad to work. Now after 5 years we have been recently trying to make a go of things. I truly believed things were different as we had both changed and grown up a lot. I was at times guarded and held back for fear of being hurt again although I've tried my best to explain this and show and tell me true feelings about him the way I feel and what I want. He had been very supportive and very patient which made me think things were different and made me love him more. I have now opened up and was very happy and felt like eventually we were getting where we had always wanted to be.

Of late we argued about small things and his behavior towards me changed. He has become guarded and unsure of what he wants now despite saying he loves me but is unsure if things will ever change. I feel like after all this time of us both wanting this so badly to throw what we have away but be foolish. I think well I know I would always regret us not being able to work through things as I know we have overcome much more difficult situations over the years and have grown closer as best friends alongside being in a relationship.

I've tried to talk to him although he doesn't want to do that and has asked me to leave him alone but still says he loves me I'm really confused and devastated as I've not only lost the one person I've ever loved but also my best friend.

You have little choice but to do what he says and leave him alone. Sorry for your loss but accept you tried your best, but it just didn't work, and its time to mourn your loss, heal, and move on.

Sucks I know, and hurts a lot right now. But it will get better in time, and you will be ready to move on, and enjoy exploring other options for your happiness.