RookCrook
Feb 7, 2012, 11:42 AM
I'm married to a United States citizen for 5 years and I've been residing in the United States for 3 years since October 2008. We have no jobs and my husband never got a job since he brought me here for 3 years.
We live in a house with his family, and we are supported by his uncle. I feel embarrassed that we, as a married couple, should be having jobs and a place that we should be renting. I don't want us to leech money off the family and be losers. His uncle has many things to worry about and I believe we're adding to the pressure on him.
My husband is 31 years old now with an associates and I am 29 weeks pregnant. In the house we live in a schitzophrenic uncle lives with us, and I don't trust being around him especially since I will be having a baby in April. They told me he won't do anything bad, but I don't want to take the risks. Who knows what a schitzophrenic will do? I barely get out of the room because I want to avoid him as much as I can, and I can imagine how this will be difficult with a baby. He had some outbursts and fought with my husband for using the microwave and stove and told us to get out of the house.
I go to college, but I can't work because I'm pregnant and a permanent resident. Before I got pregnant I tried applying for a job in many different places but still have no luck. (I am eligble to file the Application for Naturalization now but it will take a while to get my citizenship). I want my husband to get a job so we can rent a place before my daughter is born in April. I tried to tell him to go back to continuing his education at a university, but he insisted on getting a job first before going back to university. He's been saying this before I got pregnant too. Whenever I remind him to go and look for a job or research what he can be with an Associates he just says OK and forgets about it. Whenever he's free he plays video games on the computer. It's as my words don't matter, he never listens and I feel like I am being whiny and annoying. So what do I do then? Just keep us living like this? Am I wrong? I did make some mistakes, I should have went to college right away when I first came here, even as an out-of-state student instead of slacking off.
I don't know what to do, I'm very stressed out and depressed and I don't have the appetite to eat. I'm crying as I am typing this. I feel useless, I have a social phobia and probably Avoidant Personality Disorder, I've never had a job in my life before and I lack the intelligence and knowledge to do something right. I can't go live with my mother and father because they live far over seas in a country in turmoil, it's not safe there at all. I wish we could get out of this house, I don't feel safe around the schizo or comfortable and we have no money to move, my husband won't listen to me, and no one encourages him to do anything.
I'm sorry for wasting space here and complaining.
We live in a house with his family, and we are supported by his uncle. I feel embarrassed that we, as a married couple, should be having jobs and a place that we should be renting. I don't want us to leech money off the family and be losers. His uncle has many things to worry about and I believe we're adding to the pressure on him.
My husband is 31 years old now with an associates and I am 29 weeks pregnant. In the house we live in a schitzophrenic uncle lives with us, and I don't trust being around him especially since I will be having a baby in April. They told me he won't do anything bad, but I don't want to take the risks. Who knows what a schitzophrenic will do? I barely get out of the room because I want to avoid him as much as I can, and I can imagine how this will be difficult with a baby. He had some outbursts and fought with my husband for using the microwave and stove and told us to get out of the house.
I go to college, but I can't work because I'm pregnant and a permanent resident. Before I got pregnant I tried applying for a job in many different places but still have no luck. (I am eligble to file the Application for Naturalization now but it will take a while to get my citizenship). I want my husband to get a job so we can rent a place before my daughter is born in April. I tried to tell him to go back to continuing his education at a university, but he insisted on getting a job first before going back to university. He's been saying this before I got pregnant too. Whenever I remind him to go and look for a job or research what he can be with an Associates he just says OK and forgets about it. Whenever he's free he plays video games on the computer. It's as my words don't matter, he never listens and I feel like I am being whiny and annoying. So what do I do then? Just keep us living like this? Am I wrong? I did make some mistakes, I should have went to college right away when I first came here, even as an out-of-state student instead of slacking off.
I don't know what to do, I'm very stressed out and depressed and I don't have the appetite to eat. I'm crying as I am typing this. I feel useless, I have a social phobia and probably Avoidant Personality Disorder, I've never had a job in my life before and I lack the intelligence and knowledge to do something right. I can't go live with my mother and father because they live far over seas in a country in turmoil, it's not safe there at all. I wish we could get out of this house, I don't feel safe around the schizo or comfortable and we have no money to move, my husband won't listen to me, and no one encourages him to do anything.
I'm sorry for wasting space here and complaining.