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jwec
Feb 6, 2012, 05:35 PM
Ok! Here is the thing. I've know this girl for 2 years now and I'm real good friends with her sister who is 3 years younger than me.
This girl I'm interested in doesn't drink, smoke, go partying or anything like that (thank god) and she's really smart and pretty of course! I don't really know but I don't think she really has ever been in a serious relationship before like myself.

A few times I've over heard her saying how she wants to marry a doctor and how many kids she wants. She's already has names for them lol and where she wants to live when she is older.
Again she is really smart! But anyway, the weird thing part is that I talk more to her little sister than her which is kind of bad maybe? IDK. But I'm starting to talk to her a little bit

Her and her sister both know I want to be a filmmaker and they do support me. In fact, there both in this music video I'm made!

Well in December, I told one of the older sisters friends about what she is interested in and she told me so I bought her and her little sister christmas gifts. I spent about $80 total! A few weeks after christmas, her little sister messages me on Facebook saying how sweet it was for me to get and her sister gifts. She also told me her sister (the one I like) didn't have the time to type out a legitimate thank you so she asked her little sister to pass along the message. She kept telling me how much they miss me blah, blah, blah. Then she told me that we should hang out next weekend and I agreed!

So the weekend we were suppose to hang out finally came. I waited and waited for a message but got nothing! So I texted her what was going on and she told me her older sister has track so they wanted to hang out next weekend instead. So next weekend came and they NEVER contacted me back or replied to my Facebook or text messages! And to this day, I haven't heard anything back from them!

How could they ignore me after what I did? I spent nearly $80 to show how much I care for them (or at least how much of a good friend I am at least) and they just blew me off without any explanation. Why would they do that? I seriously know them better than this. They could at least tell me if something was bothering them!

I really don't know what to do. I want to keep trying but I know for a fact if I keep trying, and they will do nothing! Girls, what are your thoughts, opinions and suggestions on this. It just bothers me that I spent $80 on them and they repaid me with nothing but silence. PLEASE HELP! I really need somebody to help me with this I'm so confused with them! Help!

CatieV
Feb 7, 2012, 03:55 PM
Hmmm... The best thing you can do is to try and talk to them openly (but please DO NOT mention your $80 presents! ) But be very careful with your words, otherwise you may sound like a crazy stalker. Just politely remind them about yourself, invite them out for a pizza or something like that. If they still ignore you -forget about them. It would mean they are completely not interested in you anymore. And can't even be bothered to act politely towards you. Do you really need such friends/ girlfriend?